DYM Ep: 20 How My Eating Disorder Affects My Love Life with Belah Rose

14 Apr

Does Your Body Image Matter to God- (1)

Hi there! Belah here. It’s just me today, and I will be talking about the vulnerable issue in my life: my struggle with body image and how it has affected my sex life, my marriage, & my walk with God. Every day we are faced with the “standards of beauty.” It’s about time that we take a look at ourselves a different way; be proud of who we are and for what we are. You are more than your weight.

Listen in as I talk about how I struggled with a serious eating disorders, grew up with the teasing, went into my first marriage with insecurities, and how I slowly overcame (and daily am currently working to overcome) all these with some steps that you, too, could use in your own lives.

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You’ll Discover:

  • How I struggled with body image issues even as a small child.
  • How the insecurities and hang-ups I had affected my marriage.
  • That when I got married the first time, my expectations in the bedroom were way off.
  • I assumed that he was going to do everything and because I kept myself “pure” he should be utterly thrilled. But both of us had inappropriate expectations.
  • How I was ashamed of marital intimacy because of the way I was raised.
  • How my husband made me feel like a valuable person again and because of that his love brought me back to Jesus.
  • The four steps I took, and am currently taking, to overcome my bouts with body image, emotional eating and physical insecurity.
  • When sex was in the right context, our intimacy exploded.
  • How you should focus on the things that make you proud, that make you love who you are.

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Scriptures/Quotes:

Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. Hebrews 11:1

His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!’ Matthew 25:21

But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. 2 Peter 3:8

Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. James 4:7

We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise. 2 Corinthians 10:12

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Resources Mentioned:

Joyce Meyer https://www.joycemeyer.org/

Anthony Robbins http://www.tonyrobbins.com/

delightyourmarriage.com/social

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Tweetables:

  • The psychology of a woman is so connected to her physiology.
  • You deserve value and respect because you are God’s holy creature.
  • Focus on the areas that make you proud; focus on the things that will make you say, “Wow, God knew what he was doing when he designed me.”
  • If you find wisdom out there in the world it’s Gods. If it’s true, it’s God’s truth.
  • Stop calling yourself fat. Stop calling yourself unworthy. Stop calling yourself gross. Because that’s not true. That’s what the enemy wants you think. That is a satan attack. That is not of God. That is not true. You are beautiful, you are worth it.
  • God wants to use you for His glory.
  • You have to change your life and if you are not uncomfortable, you are not changing.
  • If the secret to success is failing over and over again without losing enthusiasm. Sounds a lot like faith, doesn’t it?
  • God is a hopeful god; he fights for you to change.
  • He wants for you to have an abundant life; he died for you to live it.
  • He brought me back to Jesus, and he wasn’t even saved.
  • You bring your entire humanhood into the bedroom. Unfortunately, we can’t leave our normal self outside and bring in only our sexy-self. It’s all there is intimacy.
  • I called myself to a higher level. I called myself out on my sin.
  • Any comment that is not encouraging your wife, makes her want to eat.
  • God designed every part of your body.
  • Husbands, honor your wives.
  • Let the gentle, kind, loving conviction of the Holy Spirit speak to your heart, not the devil’s condemnation that comes from the sin of the world.

 

Thanks for listening! I hope you are encouraged to live in wholehearted intimacy!

Love,

Belah

 

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