99-T: Sharing The Pain of Porn with Jen Ferguson

31 May
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Sharing The Pain Of PornIf you have had sexual sin in your marriage, it’s really hard to figure out who to talk to. Not everyone is safe. Today, Jen gets it. Her marriage suffered greatly when her husband’s pornography addiction was revealed. She helps us understand what we need in the midst of the crisis. Who we should be sharing our heart to (and who we shouldn’t). Listen in for hope and healing in this discussion.

Find out more about Jen Ferguson at pureeyescleanheart.com

 

You’ll Discover:

  • That you are not alone in dealing with porn addiction in your marriage.
  • The real reason men escape into pornography…(spoiler alert: it’s not your extra 20lbs!)
    • The world will lie to us and say we’re not x enough, that’s why our husband’s are addicted, but that’s only because they want to sell you something.
  • How to overcome shame.
  • What can you do to share your pain?

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Scripture/Quote:

  • Romans 15:13
    • May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.
  • Galatians 6:2
    • Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ

 

Resources:

  • Time article about how negative porn is. It’s a helpful article (I just disagree with the first sentence).
  • Pure Eyes, Clean Heart, this is Jen’s book and she walks you through the heartache and healing process she went through as a result of her husband’s porn addiction. Rest assured dear wife, you are not alone.
  • Here are the links to our previous conversation about Jen’s story and heart for marriage: 67: Fixing a Porn Addiction and 68: Intimacy After Heartbreak

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Tweetables:

  • It’s very hard to access compassion for your husband when you’re having to jump over this wall of hurt and anger.
  • Marriage is about intimacy and is a reflection of our intimacy with Jesus.
  • How can you have true intimacy when there’s blackness separating you two?
  • What does a safe outlet look like?
  • It is not an option for me to carry this alone.
  • Let’s be really, really real with God.

 

Thanks for listening! I hope you are encouraged to live in wholehearted intimacy!

 

Love,

Belah

 

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