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Hey there, belah here. Thanks for joining. So, for a couple of months, I’ve been reading some excerpts from my book, delight your husband. In that book, I take a wife by the hand, we talk about some of the most difficult things that people never talk about with sex, and your fears, your insecurities, the the lies that the world has told you about what’s sexy, and the way you should be and the way you feel like you totally are not. And so we walk through the process of understanding your own heart, how to be confident, we walk through what your what your husband really feels about sex in his mind, how he feels about your body, what it is, in God’s view, about the whole sex question and what’s okay and what’s not, and how to, how to have freedom in it all. And so the kind of conclusion of the book is me going through and walking in wife, by the hand through practicalities, some really practical items that, honestly, there’s just not Christian books about, there’s just not things that we can understand our husband’s climax, like, what are the stages to his orgasm, those kinds of things are not gone into deep enough. And so that’s what my book does is go into in depth, how to understand your husband’s orgasm, and specifically how as a wife, you can treat him to the pleasures of oral sex. And I specifically call it Penny because I like that word better than all the other words that the society uses for it. But that’s what my book kind of culminates with all this information with all this insight, with all the ways that you have been learning to enjoy your own body and sex and be confident and learn to seduce and, and learn to enjoy the sex act and learn to desire him. And so that’s all to say that I’d like that to kind of inform this section of the book that I’m about to read. So it this the the Section says the heading is great oral starts in his mind. So the sub subheading is what is sexy, sexy. When preparing your mind to approach your husband. Consider what types of teasing caressing or language will excite his senses. Just because you’re married to this man doesn’t mean you robbed him of the fun and enjoyment of being seduced. Yes, he knows you intimately. That means you can play and have fun with him and you’re acting as a temperature office. It’s a safe place to experiment with your favorite sexy accents, verbiage, costumes and sexy performances. Why not let your husband enjoy a show? Get your nerve up and be willing to give him a sexy chair dance. Selecting a nice piece of music to accompany your show will help you and him relax and have fun. He will love your willingness to spice things up and go out on a limb for his pleasure. I’d encourage you to practice by yourself first. This will help you to feel more at ease during practice being confident. Practice feeling confident while performing. Your husband enjoys seeing your body. He enjoys seeing you in sexy clothes. He loves your curves he chose you to marry and who you are is very attractive to him. visuals that do nothing for you are incredibly enjoyable to him. Remember, confidence is sexy. Just as men have to decide to be confident about their penis size, something they can’t do a darn thing about. It’s not about the size, shape or perk of your body. It’s really about what you confidently do with it. Don’t sell yourself short your body is hot. And your husband would love to see you doing something risky just to please Him.

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element of mystery. There’s always an element of mystery to sexual desire. The guarded woman may be cold and harmful hiding wounds that need light and love to heal. That is not what I mean when I encourage you to be mysterious. If you have areas of deep pain that you have not shared with your husband, other trusted friends and God honor those but be honest and allow God to heal those areas by going through this process. As you can get to a place of wholeness, you will then have the power to be a fully aware, healed and confident woman. However, a whole yet mysterious woman in the bedroom is intriguing and enticing. Your husband does not need to know all of your mind. Don’t admit to him how silly you feel. Don’t ask him if you look stupid, or melt into a pile of jello, the moment he gazes upon you in your lingerie. linger in the doorway wearing your scandalous Teddy. Sometimes you have to flaunt it before you feel it. Sometimes you have to pretend to be confident, even when you don’t feel confident. As Joyce Meyer says, you often just have to do it afraid. We all feel silly and even ridiculous before we feel strong and confident. Put on a fearless face and go for it. I remember being terrified of eating in restaurants. I came from a large family of humble means. And we would eat at a restaurant at the most one time per year. Every occasion we did by Mother you used it as a teaching moment. Napkins in labs, elbows off the table, and we dare not speak with our mouths full. In high school, I began interning at a professional office every day my boss would take me and the other professionals out for lunch. I was practically sweating each day. By 11:30am. Anticipating the noon time meal, I knew I need to engage in appropriate small talk, act relaxed when picking up the correct spoon and dabbing my mouth gingerly with a napkin, which was otherwise in my lap. Inside, I was so scared I dripped something on my blouse. Or I’d accidentally chime into the conversation while my mouth was full. Years later, I realized that no one was sitting judging my performance, there was no reason to be scared. The others were all too concerned with their own meals and their conversation to be evaluating how I was handling the situation. This is true in the bedroom as well. Your husband is delighted at the sight of you and your efforts to entice him. Everything feels awkward the first few times for you. But I asked you to push through that discomfort and you’ll end up satisfying your hubby and enjoying a marriage better than you would have dreamed. Alright, well, that’s all we have time to read for today. But I do hope that that has intrigued you to start doing those things that are afraid I have many more practical things I’d like to share. I’m not going to I am not sharing so many practical things on the podcast just because I you know children and there’s just no way to limit where things are shared. But I feel like selling a book is a good barrier for people to not be able to get it who are not, you know, who are too young or just not in a place that they should be reading the material. Okay, but anyway, thank you for listening again. I hope that this is encouraging you I pray that it would be something that would encourage you to take that step to be vulnerable to be confident. Then do something that makes you scared that is going to pay off. God bless you. We’ll talk on Tuesday.