DYM Ep 94: Marriage With Chronic Illness with Kimberly Rae

26 Apr

Marriage with Chronic Illness1 in 2 of marriages deal with chronic illness, and most of them are invisible (ie: depression, diabetes, ). Kimberly shares what life is like when you’re dealing with constant challenge in your body. She has an incredible heart and really gives us wisdom whether we’re serving a chronically ill spouse or receiving their care. Spoiler alert: There is so much hope in this episode.  

Check out Part I at delightyourmarriage.com/93

Learn more about Kimberly Rae at kimberlyrae.com

You’ll Discover:

  • How to do marriage when you have chronic illness
  • How illness affects marriage and how it often (75%) ends in divorce
  • How people respond to stress differently and how vital this is
  • How Jesus shines through the way we handle the most difficult things in our marriages
  • Thoughts on chronic illness and physical intimacy

Books & Resources Mentioned:

  • You’re Sick They’re Not Kimberly’s book dealing with the challenges of chronic illness in your marriage
  • Why Doesn’t God Fix It? Kimberly’s book that helps us understand God’s reasons for suffering and challenges… There is so much hope in there.
  • Intended For Pleasure book for fantastic practical how-tos on sex! (I read this when I was first married and it was a huge help…even talks about the “pre-orgasmic wife”)
  • Delight Your Husband book by me (Belah Rose) to get other ideas and practical know-how on how to enjoy the bedroom even when you’re so tired.
  • Gift For God by Mother Teresa has such an incredible heart
  • Joni Eareckson Tada a quadriplegic who’s heart is just incredible. Check out a video of her story here.
  • Love & Respect book centering around what God desires each of us to submit and love each other through.
    • “A guy’s definition of love is respect.”

Greater faith when we don't get what we want

Scripture References:

  • Hebrews 11 – ‘The Hall of Faith’ full of faith & hardship
  • 2 Corinthians 10:12
    • We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.
  • Proverbs 28:26
    • He who trusts in his own heart is a fool, But he who walks wisely will be delivered.
  • 2 Corinthians 8:12
    • For if the willingness is there, the gift is acceptable according to what one has, not according to what one does not have.
    • (I have memorized this since my conversation with Kimberly…and I’m so grateful! I encourage you to do this too, it really helps!)
  • Psalm 85:10
    • Love and faithfulness meet together; righteousness and peace kiss each other.


  • There will always be unfulfilled longings in your life. God made you that way because He wants to be the only thing that will ultimately fulfill you.
  • Turn your marriage into a spiritual adventure instead of a selfish adventure.
  • Sometimes it takes greater faith when God doesn’t give you what you want & still you choose to trust Him.
  • As soon as I said “I do,” he became the right person.
  • A tree branch doesn’t produce fruit; being stuck to the tree makes us produce fruit.
  • It may not look spiritual, but its not about looks.
  • Some days the victory is just in enduring. -Corrie Ten Boom


Thanks for listening! I hope you are encouraged to live in wholehearted intimacy!





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