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I Didn’t Enjoy Sex, THIS Changed Everything (Connection Sessions) - Delight Your Marriage

The Desert

I teach on sex. I write on sex. I often feel I live and breathe this stuff. But, what if I told you at times I used to stare in the mirror and said “Ugh…again, tonight? Lord, I really don’t want to do this”.

“Maybe this is the desert older couples get to when wives start understanding sex as a ‘duty’”, I wondered.

The Hunt

I have never outright said I loved sex. I loved the benefits, impact on my husband, some physical sensations for sure, the fun before and after and the spiritual and emotional results. But, it took a lot of energy and focus to get to a spot of wanting it. Even with the orgasms, I wasn’t craving the activity that often.

So, I dedicated my next few months to learning to enjoy sex. I learned through books, online courses and audiobooks. Some explored how other cultures view sex and have for centuries. And I applied it in the bedroom and daily practices. One included swinging weights attached to a jade egg which was in my… (That practice didn’t last long).

The Practice

Things were getting better bit by bit, but then I happened upon something that really spoke to me. And it reflected a very beautiful experience we enjoyed maybe a year before. I merged that with some of my own practices and philosophies and developed a new framework.

Now I teach that there are two kinds of sex: Fierce (Masculine sex) and Passionate sex (Feminine sex). (These can be part of the same experience, but I think it’s helpful to distinguish the two as you’re learning to love sex). Fierce is more active and powerful and often more focused on his pleasure with the goal to orgasm. Passionate sex/Feminine sex is about intimacy, connection and not orgasm but about unification of bodies and souls. Both are good, holy and healthy, but they cater to different desires, natures, moods, and even in-the-moment-energy.

We were generally having Fierce sex/Masculine sex. The kind of sex about which I wrote my book and courses. But what I was yearning for more.

I developed the “Connection Sessions” first. The purpose is to reclaim a woman’s voice and lay the foundation so she can enjoy the other types of sex. It slowly provides a bridge for a couple to begin to experience the spiritual and emotional connection in sex required for her to reach deeper pleasure and orgasms in sex.

It is a stepping stone for greater fulfillment for both partners. If couples haven’t experienced Passionate sex/Feminine sex or the wife is struggling with pleasure in sex this is the ticket!

What it taught me

Connection Sessions taught me that (though I knew some of these on a surface level):

I had a voice in sex
My pleasure is just as important as his and both of our expectations are aligned with that
I could say I was finished when I was finished
That Fierce sex/Masculine sex isn’t the only sex to be had
My vagina has incredible internal sensitivities to be awakened
When I want a simple connection with him–just for me–I can have it

End result?

Passionate love-making, Fierce sex/Masculine sex, Connections Sessions, peni, and everything in between

I experienced new types of orgasms I had not experienced before!

Even if I feel I don’t have a ton of energy I can have wonderful Connection Sessions or Passionate sex/Feminine sex
And I’m excited that there’s more pleasure to be had!

Your journey

It’s already 2019! What are you going to do to uplevel your sex life?

Whether I speak with you one-on-one or connect simply through this post, PLEASE prioritize your pleasure in sex. It takes time, effort, and money (remember the books, mentoring and courses I bought? Oh and…ehemm and the jade egg swinging?), but this is WAY too important to not prioritize in 2019!

Much love to you and yours!

Belah Rose is a Coach; Marriage and intimacy expert; Podcaster of award-winning Delight Your Marriage podcast; Author of Delight Your Husband and several online courses; If you’d like to get your intimacy upleveled in 2019, schedule a FREE one-on-one FREE Clarity Call!

I Didn’t Enjoy Sex, THIS Changed Everything (Connection Sessions)

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