165-Why He Became Romantic, Part 1

7 Nov

You may have thought you chose the right man when you were dating, but suddenly things changed when you got married. He stopped trying. He stopped woo-ing you and just took you for granted. When was the last time he took you on a date? Its so tough to feel that if he just tried a little you’d be happy.

Its an awful feeling. The good news is it can change with these steps. Its hard work on our end, but it makes big differences in the marriage. I was totally surprised to find out the very things I was doing that I thought was “helping” was actually pulling the rug out from under him.

When I gave him advice, corrected, explained and taught him…he took that to mean I thought he was stupid. When I critiqued and guided for next time…he felt the rug was pulled out from under him, criticized and that there was no pleasing me. So why try?

The Surrendered Wife was the main reason I changed.

The key principles: husbands want to be respected. Women want to be cherished. Does your craving for real intimacy in your marriage win, over your need to be in control? Lets chat this through in this episode.