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You might think your marriage is too far gone. There is too much strife, emotional and mental abuse, painful memories, WAY too much baggage to ever recover.
I encourage you to review this entire series and take a journey with me on this episode. Maybe we’ve been looking at this whole marriage thing all wrong. And we’ve been looking at what it means to be man and woman wrong too?
What is the masculine nature? What is the feminine nature? Can a man have both, can a woman have both?
Is this a sacrilegious framework? Well, I think there is a ton of biblical precedence for thinking of men and women as possessing both masculine and feminine natures and both are good, should be respected and honored. I’m going to share that here.
I want to talk about how this shows up in my own marriage specifically and how it can radically change yours!
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All right, and welcome. Thank you so much for joining me today. Not sure what you’re up to. But whatever you are doing, thank you for honoring me with your presence. And yeah, spending some time today. Well, this is the final part of the abuse series. And if you’re listening to me, while I release it, we’re heading up until Christmas, and the New Year, so I’m very excited about the new year. As you may know, if you have listened to me previously, it’s always a time that I spend reflecting, and in prayer, and really discerning what this new season should be looking like and where God wants to take me and what he wants me to be doing. And I’m really excited, because, yeah, we’re gonna have a ton of really great content in the new year, I’m really stoked to work with you on it. One big thing is about huge transformation. That’s what I’m looking to work with you on in the new year. So biggest biggest focus is to enjoy your sex life, as a woman to feel enjoyed and love it, that is not easy, because the assumption is only he is going to enjoy it. But that is not true. So we are going to be diving into that in the new year. And I am hopeful that you will just engage and work with me literally, really, really work to transform your marriage to be the delighted wife you were meant to be. Alright, well, let’s dive into this final piece, which is really how to change your marriage from being abused to being cherished, to being loved. Is that even possible? I think so. And I think there’s understandings that we all need to have in order to make it that way. So yeah, let’s dive in.
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So let’s go ahead and start with what is going to maybe be the hardest thing for you to accept. But let me explain why. Here’s my thesis. Each of us, male and female, holds the feminine nature and the masculine nature within us. So that might be a little hard to understand. What I’m going to do in this podcast is talk about what the feminine nature is, what the masculine nature is, and what are the qualities? And how does it show up in the Bible in different ways. And I’m going to also talk about how Yeah, how that reflects in our society, and ultimately, how that understanding can transform your marriage. All right, so women, more than likely aren’t going to have as hard of a time depending depending on where you’re coming from. But that might not be as hard of a time to understand women have the nature of the masculine inside of them. Because, you know, women don’t mind, you know, feeling what men get to enjoy in our society that, you know, men are the more dominant, more powerful, more privileged. People that have the higher jobs and the, you know, more money. And I mean, these are actually statistical facts more, it’s vastly, vastly more men are directors of movies. So men’s values are actually proliferated far more than women’s values are around, around just everything that the media shows. And so, and I say vastly, vastly, I believe it’s something like 4% of directors in mainstream movies are women, all the rest are men. So if you think that you’re being influenced by the values that are hold by held by women, it’s not very, it’s not very accurate. It’s the values of the unredeemed male mind for the most part. So let’s talk about that, you know, women we can wear dresses and pants, which originally pants were only for men, but men are not going to wearing dresses, at least men that identify as heterosexual, you know, men, even Christian men, that’s not, it’s not something they’re be willing to do, because that would call them a woman. And that’s not. Okay. So women have a very broad ability to do things. Whereas men really have narrow choices for them to be considered a quote, man, a lot of times, they have to prove themselves as being a man because they got to engage in quote, manly activities, where they’re powerful and adrenaline filled, and it makes a lot of, maybe they have to make a lot of money, and they definitely have to make more than their wife. And they have to have lots of respect by lots of people, and they have to have lots of sex and, you know, before marriage, they they get to, you know, hook up with whoever they want to, and even in that marriage, maybe they don’t even have to be accountable to their marriage vows. So that’s a lot of what our society often says, this is a manly, this is who a man is. And so men really have less, I would say, ability to express manlihood manhood than women do women, we could really just do almost as much, or anything we want, and we’d still be a woman, we would just be kind of a, you know, maybe a weird one. But it wouldn’t make us a man. Unless we were specifically proliferating the idea that we same sex attraction that we are a man, XY and Z, or that we, you know, only are attracted to women or we are gay, I mean, you almost have to only say that, for women to be, you know, put in that category, just about but men, you’ve got to prove that you’re a man before you’re able to be put in that category A lot of times. So it’s, it’s a hard, it’s a hard thing. It’s a hard thing in our society, it’s very hard. And what happens is, you know, men can present as having more of the feminine nature.
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But it’s still God’s design of who we are. But again, in our society, a man who cares about his physical appearance, maybe has a certain way of talking, maybe he likes to cook with his mom more than he likes to wrestle, or go fishing with his dad. In our society, we call that gay, he must be gay, and what then whatever you believe about yourself, and a lot of times, that’s comes from what people believe about you and have told you maybe as a child, or growing up, or even now, whatever age you are, then whatever you believe about yourself, and whatever you focus on, it grows, until it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, until it becomes well, then I must be gay. And then you focus on that, and then the attraction of the sex of that particular area gross. But the Bible says, Only having sex with another individual of the same genitalia is sin. God doesn’t say that a man dressing well and caring about the finer aspects of life, or beauty or being meticulous or caretaking. God doesn’t say any of that is sinful or homosexual at all. At all. It’s our society that has put that in the box of gayness. And yet it’s not what God has said, is simply the act of sexual intercourse. And so when a person, even if they identify as gay, when they are not having sex with that individual, they are not sinning. If they repent, it is over it is done regardless of if they change the way they talk and walk and what kind of clothes they wear, they are not sinning. It’s that physical act, that’s a sin. So all of the feminine nature, even if they’re prominent, in a man are godly. And all of the masculine nature, even if they’re prominent in a woman are godly. In fact, it may be healthier. You know, scientifically, you know, it’s healthy to have estrogen and testosterone in men and women, though there’s more testosterone in men and more testosterone, estrogen and women. They both have both. And, you know, maybe there’ll be more research. I’m not a scientist, but who knows, maybe, you know, certain qualities and hormones. More estrogen means a certain thing in a man but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong or bad. It just means that’s why God made them and that’s good and we can accept it and sing with a woman. If she has more testosterone. She might be, you know, or what When presenting as more masculine nature and qualities, she might be very decisive and a strong leader, she might be able to tell men what to do with no problem. She may be super fierce in the bedroom and even into BDSM, for example, which is like the bondage and, you know, leather straps and all that stuff, if you didn’t know what that was, but that doesn’t mean she’s gay, or because of her personality as a powerful woman that she’s never going to find a man. I don’t think that’s the case at all. I think that the hard thing here is that the truth is, there’s so much variation between men and women. So when people say, and I’ve said it in my podcast many times, but I think we need to articulate it and clarify it more. So is that when we say women are, or women’s nature is, I think what we should really be saying is that the feminine nature is, or the masculine nature is. And so because you might say, when when someone says, Well, women are XY and Z, and you might be like, ah, that’s not me, that’s my husband. And I totally get that. But if we, as each individual are both feminine and masculine natures within us, then some aspects are more prominent in our personalities. And in certain times, we should be walking in a certain nature, and neither is better or worse. And then we are okay, hearing about what the feminine nature is and what the masculine nature is, because it’s not better or worse, and it might present in certain times, and it should present at certain times. And then we can say, you know, man who is more pronounced in the feminine nature, and that’s a good thing. He’s got good qualities that are going to be super, super helpful. And a woman who’s more pronounced and prominent in the masculine nature in certain areas, that’s also a really good thing, and is really, really good and important.
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And God has made them that way. So why is it actually if it’s just the same and just as valuable, then what why is it matter, that we have a distinction about the feminine nature and the masculine nature? Well, I think it’s because when we understand the feminine and the nap, the masculine natures, it matters to how we relate to God, and how we relate in marriage, specifically with our Husband, husband to wife relationship, not the family, not the outside world. It’s specifically husband to wife, specifically you to God. Because if you know the Scriptures, it says that how a man is with his wife is the same as God is with the church. It’s that most most most intimate place. And so in your marriage as a woman, for you to have peace and joy and love and purpose and for it to thrive, that’s when the wife surrenders into her feminine. And that’s when the husband stands up into his masculine. And they are one flesh, man penetrating women receiving they are one flesh. And I’ll just say it one more time, for marriage to have the peace, joy, love and purpose and thrive in the way God wants it to, is when a wife surrenders into her feminine and the husband stands up into his masculine and they are one flesh, man penetrating and women receiving. Outside of that intimate place, your nature of feminine and masculine are able to be as God wants them to be all that you are in your strength and personality and you can be totally you because your deepest nature in your marriage is fulfilled. Whole women can accept both nature’s within them and recognize the God will use both the masculine often protects their feminine nature. So they need the masculine energy and protective nature to guard their hearts. So when it’s not safe for them to be the feminine, the vulnerable, the receptive, the soft, the gentle, they are using the masculine nature constructing and holding the boundaries, to make sure that it isn’t going to hurt their heart and hurt that gentle feminine nature that they are are supposed To Have and supposed to use in this world. A whole woman accepts that she has both the feminine and the masculine. But she doesn’t have to be the same in her house once again as she is outside of her relationship with her husband. The feminine is vital to making this world safe. Whole men accept both nature’s within himself and recognize that God will use both nature’s the feminine to give him compassion, where the masculine can protect the vulnerable. This is countercultural, because men have learned to understand what it means to be a man in terms of how they are able to abuse women, whether it’s a sexual standard hip hop, culture, polygamy, men being better than women, having more money than women earning more money than women being able to be promoted in ways in places that women aren’t prostitution, pornography, which is 90%, violent against women. So that’s countercultural for a man to protect the feminine, even within himself the vulnerability and to recognize that he is fully male, fully man, having both the masculine and the feminine natures within him. So let’s talk about what are those natures, so the feminine is trusting, and this is a gift that has made her open to great abuse and oppression when it hasn’t been boundaried and protected. But let’s say that again, so the feminine nature that’s trusting, receptive, gentle, soft, vulnerable, safe, compassionate, innocent, spontaneous pleasures, joyful, attractive, adored, a motherly, a woman desires to be loved, given generous attention and cherished.
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The masculine nature’s confident, shrewd, sometimes almost like paranoid, of the negative realities, aware of them, the very least a protector, fierce, self directed, powerful, and sometimes that power shows up. And it looks more like anger. A fatherly, responsible, and a man wants to be respected and admired, and his sex drive to be honored.
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So where’s the biblical basis for this stuff? Well, the framework specifically, the way that I’m talking about it, is not specific in the Bible. But I think it’s very clear that the keys that this framework gives us is present in the Bible. So I’ll give an example that I often did give is that, you know, gravity is not mentioned in the Bible ever, will they never talk about it. They never talk about how the Earth rotates around the sun that’s never talked about. And yet it’s true, we have found that it’s true. So this is the same kind of thing is that this is a framework to help us understand realities of life that gives us more alignment with Christ and scripture, for us to accept the way that God has made us and there’s a lot of things in my podcasts that you will automatically just accept as true because it, it intuitively makes sense to you. And you know, it’s true. But there’s not a verse that specifically says testosterone and estrogen in your body, blah, blah, blah, for example. But let me talk about the scriptures that hint at this very easily, and they men are not scared to say they’re feminine, and women are not scared to be masculine. So God himself as a mother, he says that he’s a mother hen who wishes he could have gathered Israel as a hen gathers her chicks. And I’ll just read the verse to you Matthew 2337. And it’s also in Luke 1334 says, Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you how often I have long to gather your children together as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were not willing to. I think that’s a beautiful, beautiful picture. He longs to gather the children just as as a mother hen. He is not afraid of being the feminine. He also talks about himself as a mother as a mother Eagle, and they’re known to teach their young ones to fly by default. deliberately pushing them out of their nest and then catching them just before they plunge to death. And so in Deuteronomy 3210 to 11, it says, God guarded Jacob, as the apple of his eye, like an eagle that stirs up its nest and hovers over its young, that spreads its wings to catch them and carry them aloft. So once again, that that motherly Eagle, Hosea 13, eight, like a bear robbed of her cubs, I will attack them and rip them open, says the Lord. And I would actually just as a caveat here or mention, I would say that this is the protective masculine nature showing up in the mother. Right. So it’s, it’s kind of an interesting, but both here. So as a mother comfort, okay, sorry, this is Isaiah 6613. And it says, As a mother comforts her child, so will I, God, comfort you, and you will be comforted over Jerusalem. So once again, God isn’t scared of his feminine nature. He also talks about himself as a woman in childbirth. So Isaiah 4214, for a long time, I got have kept silent, I have been quiet and held myself back. But now I am like a woman in childbirth, I cry out, I gasp and pant. And then in Deuteronomy 3218. It’s almost God has once again as a birther. It says, You were unmindful of the Rock who bore you, and you forgot the God who gave you birth. It’s interesting. He even uses the word birth. And that’s what a woman does. And then he also talks about a woman nursing. And it says, Isaiah, as though he were a woman who nurse who nurses, his his children, Isaiah 4915. It says, Can a mother forget the baby at her breast, and have no compassion on the child she has born, though she may forget, I got will not forget you. And then in Psalm 22, nine, it’s almost like God is acting as a midwife. And it says,
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Yet, you you sorry, this is David talking to God. It says yet, you brought me out of the womb, you searched, you secured me at my mother’s breast. So it can if you can imagine, like a midwife bringing the baby out of the womb, and placing the baby on mother’s breast. And then another verse talks about God as master and mistress of a house. So Psalms 123 Two says, as the eyes of the servant, look to the hand of the master, as the eyes of the maid servant, look to the hand of the mistress. So our eyes are on the Lord our God until he shows us mercy. And so, kind of going back to David, he’s talks about him being nursed, as a child with God. Psalms 131, it says, like a weaned child resting with his mother, my soul is like a weaned child within me, composed and freed with from discomfort. And David showed many, many emotions throughout the psalms that seem completely unquote manly. But he’s so up and down and in and out, and all over the place with emotions. And I mean, would we consider that appropriate or manly? You know, David danced before the Lord. So much so that, you know, people called him crazy, you know, but but in fact, he was honored by God. And those that did call him call him crazy or they were punished. I can’t I don’t have the specific story in front of me but they were punished for their their poor judgment of of his radical love and vulnerability. He even dance naked before the Lord, right, that’s absolutely vulnerable. And then again, biblically, we are the bride of Christ. So in what ways are all of us living into that feminine nature, in our relationship with Christ, all of us male and female, that feminine nature being the bride, and in what ways is he Christ, the masculine nature to us? Adam and Eve are equal and unique, both in God’s image they are equal so we don’t have to be scared that you know the feminine The nature of the masculine nature in me isn’t good. It is good. Both are good. Both are God’s image. He created everything good. Jesus was a whole man. But he lived fully in the masculine and he lived fully in the feminine. He was a whole man. He was moved with compassion to the vulnerable to the sick to the women to the children to the feminine. He was moved with compassion. He was moved by truth and to anger and he threw over the moneylenders tables, he said powerful things to his friends, like Get behind Me, Satan. And he had strong resolute boundaries with the crowds and even with his close friends. That sounds like more of the masculine. He was in touch with his emotions, though he wept, he embraced his limits, he said power went out of him. When a woman touched him, he was willing to say, I got weak all the sudden guys, right? He cared about those who needed help. And he even asked his friends vulnerably please pray with me. Wake up, wake up, pray with me. And they they fell asleep in the Garden of Gethsemane. He was vulnerable, he was willing to be emotional, to be in touch with his feminine. And he was living into the masculine when he was a protector of the feminine. He protected women over and over again, his mother, he made sure she was taken care of when He was hanging on the cross with Mary Magdalene. He protected her from the judgments and the shaming of the men and the disciples that were around him while she was vulnerably. Living in her feminine and wiping his feet with her tears. Mary and Martha he protected Mary from his masculine strength by saying that she should be here she should be living in her masculine right now.
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And the woman caught in adultery, he turned the focus on every man who was trying to kill that woman, and said that they instead should be stoned because they are just as sinful as this woman. He responded to her then with compassion, but then also powerful boundaries when he told her go and sin no more. So God, Jesus was both, he was fine with both. And again, Mary, and Martha story, Mary was unapologetic in the midst of men to gain what she had a right to. Whereas Martha was just doing what was expected to her of her in that society. She was supposed to be cleaning and working and hosting and being great hostess, and Mary wasn’t doing that Mary was learning and digging into what the men at that time were the only ones that had the right to. And Jesus said, she chose the good part, and it won’t be taken from her. And in my last podcast, about submitting, I talked about there being so many other leaders of women that were powerful in the Bible. And there are tons more in the old testament to that were vital to God’s victory, the story of God’s people and ultimately, to the birth of Jesus, there are so many women that were required to be in the lineage that then eventually brought Jesus. All right. So why again, you might be asking yourself, does it matter for us to have this distinction of the feminine and the masculine natures? Well, let me go back to read them to you. Because what I think is important is when we, again fall into as a woman, we surrender into the feminine in our marriage. It allows for our husband to stand up in the masculine in the most intimate relationship. So a feminine nature’s trusting, receptive, gentle, soft, vulnerable, safe, compassion, innocent, spontaneous, pleasure, joyful, desirous a woman who is attractive, desires to be loved given generous attention and cherished and the masculine nature’s confident, shrewd, paranoid and aware of negative realities protector, angry at times, that might show up as powerful But angry, self directed, fully free to direct himself. Fierce, powerful, fatherly responsible a man wants to be treated with respect to be admired, and for his sex drive and desires to be honored.
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So what does that look like? In for me in our marriage, and, you know, how do I present in the masculine and the feminine in my life? Well,
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professionally, outside of the home, outside of my marriage, specifically, I exerted power to hire and fire men, I have managed and had direct reports many times who are male, I have given them evaluations, I have told them where they need to improve, I have determined what their what their budget, what their salaries would be based on budgets and what I knew about the factors of the program. So that’s what power that’s boundaries, I had to let people go from positions in order to protect the work that was happening, and that they were sabotaging it by being there. And that’s I’ve had to let people go women and men from once again, the work that was happening, vulnerable, good, important work was being sabotaged, because there were people in in places that they shouldn’t be. And that was, again, a protective nature male, sorry, not male, but masculine nature I was living into, I also have gotten angry at the abuse of women, and powerfully told men, that it wasn’t okay. And clearly, if you’ve listened to my podcast, I don’t speak without confidence. No, no, I am, I am fierce. I am happy to do that. And I don’t think that is non female of me at all. That is both nature’s within me. In in God’s redeemed state of my my strengths and my personality, I am self directed, I have applied for jobs that I was legitimately not qualified for. And I have negotiated raises for almost every time every career change I have made, and then become a manager and then another manager and X, Y and Z. And, and that’s just the shrewd, self directed ways that I have been willing to live into and not fear because of, you know, the expectations of what a woman should be. And I am completely responsible for how people treat me, I teach them how to treat me. Right. That’s what the boundaries section was all about. You teach people how to treat you, in every area of your life, your relationships, your family, your husband, your extended family, every single relationship, you teach people how to treat you. And it happens a very different ways. It’s essentially happens through boundaries, and you can go back and listen to the abuse part. I believe it’s part two, about the boundaries, it’s really, really good. And I’m sure if that’s something at all, that you’re unhappy with the way people treat you, it’s, it’s your responsibility. And once again, that’s that masculine nature that you need to be living into and realize you are fully responsible for what’s going on in your life. And you can change it. And once again, and that’s the last point I want to say is I am responsible for the correct direction of my time with the Lord and letting the Lord infiltrate and influence every aspect of my life. I am responsible for that. I am responsible for that. My husband is not responsible for my soul. And for my commitment to Jesus I am and when I’m waiting around, wondering when he’s going to lead. That’s not That’s not what I’m supposed to be doing. I’m fully responsible for how I interact with Jesus. And I believe that is scriptural and right and true. But all of that there is a big, big at the same time as a wife in my most intimate, intimate marriage. If I want a marriage that is joyful and peaceful and fun and fulfilling and purposeful and godly, I fall into I serve render into that feminine nature. As it becomes more and more safe, with my boundaries, I make sure that things become safe. But as I do, what happens is
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that I want him to feel powerful. I want to honor his nature in the masculine, I surrender into my feminine, and he stands up in his masculine. If I surrender into my feminine, and the way I do that, in my marriage, it looks like this. He makes all the financial decisions. So he feels powerful. I talk about that more on the Submit. Episode last time, when we’re walking somewhere, he, he’s in charge, he lets me know when I when we’re going across the street, he’s the protector, and I let him go in that role. You know, if he thinks something’s unsafe, I don’t do it. You know, he’s protecting me. He’s protecting our family, that’s his role is responsible for our family. And if I challenged that, he doesn’t feel that responsibility. And so he his automatic response will be, Well, nevermind, throw up my hands, I guess I don’t have the authority to protect my family. And that’s very debilitating for him. very disrespectful. I try to defer to him. When someone asks the both of us a question, if we’re together. I tried to just look at him first to see if he’s going to answer if he wants me to answer whatever. And it’s, it’s seems ridiculous. seems silly. I mean, I’m the Social Butterfly. I’m the one that loves talking and communicating and processing externally. So that’s not my personality to just be like, Yeah, honey, you’re the one that, you know, is more of the listener and, and doesn’t really speak unless you really have things thought through. But I want to honor his masculinity where, when we’re together, and for him to feel powerful and respected, and listened to. And because I do that you respect when somebody else respects that person, if that makes sense. So when you see a respectful wife, you’re like, Wow, I wonder what her husband’s like if she, if she respects him, than men, he must be someone special. Right. And I especially do this in public, because I again, want him to feel respected. And as I respect, the true, the true good things about him as I praise him for those awesome aspects and ignore the negative ones, he actually becomes more of those awesome, awesome aspects. And I compliment him often in public for these things that I’m so proud about him of him about, and I don’t take jabs at the things that I think need to be changed or the embarrassing stories, unless, of course, it’s like, you know, clearly on the table, and we both think it’s funny, and he’s okay with me saying it publicly. And sometimes I literally asked him like this, you know, maybe it’s something we’ve laughed about and have gotten through, and I’m like, is it okay? If I talk about this? Or is this off the table, and he, he might tell me, it’s not something he wants to meet ever talk about. And that’s fine. But the other thing is I in our relationship, I point out the ways that I see him as shrewd and smart and wise, and an effective leader, and how important and fantastic his ministry is, and how impactful his work is, and how grateful I am that he shares with me. Even the more dark realities that I’m not aware of, when I need to be sometimes when I am aware, and I when I am unaware, and he needs to let me know what’s going on. Because a lot of times, I’m just not. It’s it’s not something that I’m thinking about. And you might be saying, well, my husband doesn’t have a ministry, He doesn’t really work in some man’s way, quote, unquote, I want to tell you my husband’s, quote, Job is taking care of our children. That’s incredibly important. But the ministry He has is with moms on the playground, the entire neighborhood, and people will tell us this when we go we went to a family family’s birthday party just this weekend, and we walked in, she’s like, Hey, welcome. I’m so glad you’re here. And then she goes to introduce us to a couple and he’s like, oh, yeah, we’ve
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met them and, and, and the host was like, Oh, of course you’ve met them. They know everyone in the whole neighborhood. It seems And it’s true by God’s grace. That’s what my husband’s like. It’s funny because he’s so quiet that you would never expect. But he knows everyone in the playground, we walk down the street, and he’s saying hi to half the people that I’ve never met or seen. But that’s his ministry. That’s the work that God’s doing. And it’s so impactful for all these women, to see what an amazing man looks like an amazing husband and amazing father, that is impactful work. And for me to honor that masculine nature within it as a woman as, as the feminine in our marriage. Whether it looks like a quote, male, ministry, male leadership, quote, unquote, or not, that is still me honoring his masculine nature in our marriage. The other thing I do, as I honor his fierceness, and sex, I meet him in that by knowing his desires, by understanding his drive by knowing what it means to have a powerful, fierce sex life. You know, that’s what I teach in the seduction course, soup to nuts. ABCD how to have a hot fear, sex life, that’s what it is. But I am the one that is taken by his sexuality, who embraces his penetrative nature. And authentically loves his member and his manhood. And when I say manhood, let’s say masculinity, right? That is what I’m doing as I engage in fierce fierce sex. But I make sure this also happens often. And I make sure that we’re engaging in. Also, the feminine intimacy, connection oriented sex, which fills me up. So I feel able and open to then enjoy also the fierce, more masculine centered sex. And we get to do that, you know, on a regular basis and interchangeably, and so yeah, I’m going to be talking about this more in the new year. So get get ready, it’s going to be awesome. But this whole idea of masculine versus feminine sex, and how whole men can enjoy both and whole women can enjoy both literally, but if you if you are open to and recognize this is how God made you, as a man to enjoy the connection and intimacy. And you might enjoy that kind of sex more than the fear sex, and that’s totally good and fine. I have a friend who’s with, you know, her partner who talks about she is more of the fear sex, that’s what she prefers. And he’s more of the intimacy, connection, sex, and, and that and that’s the beautiful part of the relationship. And in any growing, and that way, God willing, soon, there’ll be married, and it will be aligned with God’s will. But you know, for now, my job is to just love her and be honest with her about what God’s teaching me and listen to her and hear what gets what, what she’s learning and going through in her life. All right. So let’s just wrap this up with a quick prayer. Because I think sometimes we might be kind of all over the place with like, okay, masculine, feminine, male, female, you know, society, Christian, what. But I think that as you tease this out and discern this, it’s not that it’s not, it’s not simple. I’ll say that. It’s not an easy formula. But it is very important. And I think I will try to sum it up this way, is that a woman does not need to only exhibit the feminine nature, everywhere in her life. But when she surrenders to the feminine in her relationship with her husband, it gives him the ability to stand up in his masculine. And ultimately, the marriage can thrive and can be more aligned with Jesus, and joyful and full of love. Father, I ask that the nuggets and the insights that the woman on the other end of this line needed to hear
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you would just, you would just embed those in her heart, God and maybe these are just things she needs to be thinking about and processing and praying through. What does this mean for her? What does this mean for her marriage and for the way she interacts in her world? Is this going to free her from some things, maybe she thought she wasn’t able to do some things that she really has the power for, and she can do it. And maybe there are things that she needs to give up. That she doesn’t have to strive, she can just surrender with boundaries, as long as it’s safe, that she can also just recognize where to do and in what directions to take with these new understandings. I know that you’re going to direct her into all truth, Holy Spirit. And I asked that you would do that today. In Jesus name, amen. Well, I would love to help you sort through these things directly. You and me on a phone call with a clarity call, what is really going on in your marriage? And how can it actually be transformed? That you’re ready, you are done, you’re ready to transform your marriage? If that is you. Go ahead and drop me an email belah at delight your marriage.com you and I will sit on the phone for 45 minute conversation, and I will help you tease out. It’s called a clarity call. I’m helping you tease out what is going on in your marriage. And how can it move to transformation to holiness to godliness to fulfillment to playful enjoyment? Let’s get on that call together. Just drop me an email belah at delight your marriage.com I’ll have it linked up in the show notes. God bless you. I’m excited to talk to you soon. And have a wonderful Christmas and Happy New Year. Our next conversation together will be the first week of January. All right, love you so much. I’ll be praying for you. Bye
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Welcome to the delight your marriage podcast. This show where you hear from amazing and inspiring wives sharing their struggles, triumphs, and advice for this journey called marriage. Here’s your host, belah. Rose.
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All right, all right. Welcome. Welcome, welcome. It is a brand new year 2019. I am so excited that you are with me. I’m belah rose, and this is gonna be a life changing year for you and your marriage. Listen, I know the suffering of what a marriage can do. I know that it infiltrates every part of your life, if it is bad. People write into me all the time, whether it’s through Facebook, whether it’s through email, I hear from you, and I hear the struggles of your marriage. And I have been there, I have looked divorce in the face. And it’s awful, and it’s horrible. But I want to help you, I have helped you for years on this podcast, my book my courses, but I actually want to speak directly to you, I want to hear what is really going on in your marriage. So I in the new year have had a change in the way the ministry is working. And I get to now speak to women one on one about what is going on in their marriage. And I actually just received a testimonial. I think it was yesterday, or the day before maybe from someone I just spoke with. And she said that she felt completely at ease with me even from the very beginning. She said that she was shocked at how quickly we got to the root of the issue. And she feels that everyone should hop on a call with me. So that’s exciting. And then the next woman that I spoke with yesterday. Yeah, is is thrilled that from the progress that we made, and was actually able to get clarity on things she had never considered, which. Yeah, it’s just like, God is using this kind of stuff. I’ve done this work for a long time. And I have a ton of testimonials that backup that God can work through our work together and he has worked so powerfully in our work together. Testimony actually a testimonial actually, aside from that with a woman that I have worked with one on one, let’s see if I can just pull that up real quick. So she said before working with Bella, she said before working with Bella, my marriage had been to the brink of divorce and separation. My husband and I had continual anger and resentment towards one another. I knew the importance of sex to a man and felt pressure to be enough. But I felt like I never was. I reached out to Bella for help. For her to help me be who he needed. But listen to my heart and saw the missing piece boundaries. Turns out he needed me all along through Bella’s coaching, she helped me with healthy boundaries, loving and respecting myself, realizing and honoring what I enjoy and desire about sex and intimacy. She gave me wisdom and words to say, teaching me what a healthy relationship looks like in all areas. The amazing benefits I am now enjoying, and she has listened capital letters, love true love like never before. My husband and I look forward to being around each other. And I have seen and we have such an appreciation and respect for one another. I am cherished and honored. And He is respected and lifted up as my man. I am more me than ever before. And I’m loving exactly who I am becoming. Through working with Bella. My marriage is saved and thriving. And I am forever changed and grateful.
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And then she wrote a little note directly to me and she said Bella, thank you for everything. I can hear your voice in my head and we have a had an amazing time together over this holiday season. I’m using all of our skills and lessons and we are doing incredibly. So To God be the glory that is just incredible. And I have deeply deeply appreciated my the opportunity. I’ve had to walk with that. Darling, darling woman. She’s just doing incredible things for God. And she’s Yeah, just incredible. So God is good and but I want to give you hope that your marriage can completely transform. You know, if if, you know one day I believe she’s going to be able to share her full testimony and you probably would jaw drop at the amazing transformation got it done. You know, I think she’s, you know, she didn’t give you the details. But God has absolutely done incredible work here. And he can do that for you, he can do that for you. And you know, what’s happened in my life is many times, God has used books, mentors, resources, courses, programs to absolutely transform my life. So, you know, we have worked together on this journey for years if you’ve been along this podcast, and I want to invite you to actually walk directly talk to me directly one on one. So again, you can just sign up for that free dy m.as.me www.dy m.as.me. Now there is a catch, you know, we’re going to dive deep. And I’m going to my intention is to give you clarity and to love you and serve you and help you on that call, help you to see what’s really going on. But if I think I can help you, I may invite you to work with me. And the truth is, I don’t invite everyone, if I don’t think I can help you, if I don’t think you’re ready, or if I don’t think it’s a good fit. For whatever reason, I’ve done it long enough that I, God has given me a good amount of discernment there. I won’t invite you to it. But I may invite you to work with me. And if that’s the case, that’s what we’ll do. We’re gonna also include on that call. So I want to mention that. All right, well, go ahead dy m.s.me. And sign up for a call as soon as you can. Again, my schedule this week, believe is already booked. And next week more than likely is about to fill up. So dude as soon as you can. And yeah, and we’ll dive into that. That was the introduction, just to give you a little hope that things can absolutely transform in your marriage in 2019. Let’s talk about what you can do, and why it can really change. And I’ll dive in, I’ll give you a little minute, moment of breather, a little, little moment break to digest everything I just said.
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Alright, so the question to dive into is can things really change? Again, I hear from people that are suffering. And I have been there I have suffered in this life, by God’s grace, you know, in the Bible, Paul, while he’s in prison, he talks about him being content, and that he can be content when he is a bounding or when is he is a based, when he’s absolutely at the very bottom, he was in prison. And he said that he can be content. And that’s when he says in all things, Christ gives me strength. So wherever you are in your marriage, right now, I want to say that God can give you strength, you can do all things, even in that suffering. He can give you strength, and he will. So as you know, if you’re in that space, when your marriage is suffering, your whole life suffers. I mean, it’s not just you that suffering, it’s your kids, they see that they see the tension, they hear the arguments, they don’t feel safe in their house, I was a child of that kind of stuff. It doesn’t feel safe. I’m not able to live my full life if I don’t feel that, that that safety. And I remember there was someone in my life darling, in fact, two families that had that safety in that house, and I remember such a difference, and wanting to be there and just feeling safe. And how wonderful that was. And both families were able to do amazing things for God, both families were super in the church and giving of their time and, you know, mentoring of kids and anyway, so you know that your kids suffer, you know, your job suffers, you can’t focus at work, you have to take phone calls and argue with people and well or are you with your husband or send angry text back and forth or whatever, there’s, there’s just this emotional strife that happens. And that affects your financial peace. Because, you know, if you don’t feel encouraged and supported and you know, like you’re being cheered on, it’s really hard to have that self confidence to go for that next job to go for that promotion to do your best work. When you don’t have that husband that’s really supportive of you. You know, and of course, it affects your ministry, you know, whether or not you have peace, and in order to have the time and and the energy to devote to listening to Christ to listening to God’s will and His purpose and His direction. And then yeah, it affects your peace. It affects the way you walk with Jesus. You know, when I was suffering in my marriage, all of my prayers were consumed with God changing his heart were consumed with him changing all of them. It’s horrible. You know, and then not to mention walking in the fruits of the Spirit, you know, if you are completely stressed because your emotional tank is so not just on empty, it’s like, your, your hydro, your, your vehicle is skidding the ground, you’re not even moving forward. You can’t walk in the fruits of the spirit of the love, joy, peace, patience, goodness, goodness, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self control. And what about sexual fulfilment, just plain, all you feeling good, and you’re in your sexiness and having orgasms and the healthiness that that all is and feeling juicy, and in your Yeah, and your body as a woman. And then also your chastity and thoughts, right? Like, if you’re desiring sexually someone else, right? Or coveting another marriage, lusting or coveting after what someone else has, you know, and not just that just sin in many places, you know, by God’s grace, a great marriage will allow you to come to that place vulnerably and be like, Honey, I messed up. And because that’s the safest place in your life, you can share what’s really going on, and they can hold you and they can love you through it. You know, we share things about how we mess up in parenting. And then you need the vulnerability to be able to say that so we can work through it together and, and encourage each other and be like, you know, what, God is still using you, he’s still going to be helping you, you know, there’s this, there’s that whatever, we can still encourage each other through that, but that’s a safe place. You know, there’s, there’s in the Bible, it says, confess your sins to one another, so that you may be healed, that you may be forgiven. I believe it says forgiven, it’s either healed or forgiven.
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A Bible scholar on this, on the other end is going to be like, actually, Bella, that is not the right word. But anyway, I know it says confess your sins to one another. So I’m, you know, I’m confident that that is a safety when your marriage gets to that place. And then even more significantly, you know, not starting ministries, because you don’t have, again, the emotional energy, the emotionally space, the time even to devote to it, because it’s so this other thing is such an obsession, their marriage is such an obsession, you’re not even able to have the ability to move forward. So it’s huge, huge that this thing can change needs to change, because this is not just earthly stuff. I’m talking about eternal stuff. That’s what I’m talking about, I don’t really want you to have a great marriage. I mean, that’s not my point. That’s not the end goal. What I want is so that your vehicle works. So you can do God’s will in this life. Because if you have a broken marriage, your vehicle, doing God’s will is broken. It’s broken. You you’re sitting on the side of the road with a broken tire, and I’m like, here, let me help you. Let’s get your car working. So you can go do what God wants you to do. That’s what dym is all about. So let’s talk about what you can do practically. Starting today. Once you wrap up this podcast, and I will mention I am going to sing at the end of the podcast after the music plays because I have the song in my head and maybe it’ll bless you today. So just a little teaser. Okay, so here are the four things I want to just encourage you that you can start right away to make changes to your marriage. First and foremost. Habits. Like what that doesn’t sound helpful. Yes. Habits 40% of your life are dictated in autopilot dictated by your habits, good or bad. When you wake up in the morning, or how you wake up in the morning, maybe you don’t set an alarm maybe you do whatever that is the thoughts that go through your head, when or if you brush your teeth how you look Get yourself in the mirror. Do you look at your roles first or your face first? Do you smile? You know, then you walk to the kitchen? Do you get your coffee? Do you? You know, open the fridge and get some food? Do you make an omelet? Do whatever normal things are? Do you drive to work? Do you put your you know, wallet on in your pocket? Do you? You grab your purse 40% of your life? And that’s waking life? I’m not even talking about the huh? Actually, I don’t know, know that i Alright, anyway, 40% of your life. Good or bad? Is a habit. So in order to stop a bad one, you want to replace it with a good one. You know, so many people try to stop smoking, but they don’t. They don’t have something else that’s going to be a positive way. You know, to replace it. So just as an example, I’m not an expert on how to help people stop smoking, but seemed like a good example. Anyway, but let me give you the examples that I do know very well about. Worry. So if you’re finding yourself worrying, respond to that with a good habit of saying an affirmation in faith out loud. So if you suddenly in your head becomes a worry of like, oh my gosh, what if my son starts taking drugs? Okay, affirmation. My son is going to have an amazing, healthy future with phenomenal, faithful friends. There’s my affirmation. You can say in Jesus name. give God the glory for such a faith. Right? Okay, what about fear? Like, oh, my goodness, the car’s gonna wreck. Okay, that fear just immediately comes in your your head, speak truth in the word of faith. By God’s grace, this car is going to get to exactly where it’s supposed to be. And you say it out loud. Break the pattern. That’s what you have to do. You have to break the pattern.
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And see serious, say it out loud with intention, with emotion with enthusiasm. How about this? I said, those are kind of things that you can say yes, do that. Here’s something that’s more action oriented. Let’s say you have fear of finances. You have fear of financial loss, give away money. That is the answer. give away money. Do you remember the parable? Or actually, it wasn’t a parable. It was Jesus witnessing the rich people coming into the temple giving away tons of money to the temple. But it was then this old woman, old poor woman, I think. I don’t know if she was old. She was definitely poor. Anyway, she brought two pennies. She put them in the offering. That was everything she had. And Jesus said she did the good thing. She was the one that actually did. The most she gave the most. Right. There’s something about giving, that makes the finances less important. There’s something about giving. Just incredible. You know, when you’re giving your time, out of the very beginning of your paycheck, there’s a piece. But then even more when you’re extra generous. Oh, man, that is fun. That is fun. I love walking. I live in New York City, right. So there’s tons and tons of homeless people all around the place. Which is very sad. But I will say that when I have cash in my pocket, it’s really fun to give it to them. It’s so fun to think about, like, I’m helping someone like this is a very like, immediate, they get to have food, or they get to spend it in some other way. But, you know, the Bible talks about giving to the poor over and over and over again, somehow that matters to the way we we think and are and so you know, certainly I would if if I gave to every single homeless person in our city, that would be that would be difficult. But there are there are times that we can give. And it actually takes away the stress that we feel and takes away the fear that we have. By God’s grace, he does that. Okay, so fighting with your spouse, let’s say you’re in the middle of a fight. But your response your habit would normally be let’s say to not talk to them for a day, three days, whatever. Okay, change the habit by giving them something you know, they’d love That is the new habit that when you fight, you respond by giving them something, you respond by serving them in some way. It doesn’t mean you have to lose your dignity, it doesn’t mean you have to apologize for something that wasn’t your fault. But you can change the pattern, you can change the habit. And then the next piece is you add a habit to something you already do. How do you add correct habits? Well, you know, in order to be more sexual, in order to crave sex more, I really encourage dancing, giving yourself a routine of dancing sexily. If that’s a word, into the mirror, like in front of the mirror or anywhere, it just put on some fun music and just dance in a sexy way. If you don’t want to hear the words of the lyrics do it in a different language. I like to listen to reggaeton because I don’t necessarily understand everything they’re saying, and, and so I like the music, but dance in a sexy way. Another thing is right sex, craving affirmations, even on the other side of your medicine cabinet mirror, so that you you save them, you read them while you’re brushing your teeth, and you say them out loud, you know, I am sexy, and my body craves making love with my husband, my man is amazing in bed, and I love the way he enters my ReSSA it’s incredible the feelings that I have, like those are the kinds of affirmations that are going to get you to feel it to change those habits. Okay, you might be saying a lot of this is. Okay, your thoughts? Right? I’m telling you to change your thoughts, right? These are habits, they’re all behaviors, but what about your thoughts? So number one is habits. Number two, is changing your thoughts. And these are super interlinked, because proverbs 23 Seven tells us for As a man thinks in his heart, so he is.
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So he is. And so yeah, maybe I should have interchange this were number one was how you think. And number two is your habits. And that’s really the order that should be it, but I thought you would relate to habits first, before I goes, before I went into thoughts, but let me tell you how the brain works. Because now we know more about the fact that the way you think affects what you do and how to change that. Because that’s what I’m asking you to do is make changes to yourself, that will affect your marriage. So brain chemistry, there is something that they’ve discovered called neuroplasticity, which means they used to think that we were born with a certain way that our our brain was wired. But now what they have learned is that actually, as you progress in life, at any age, your brain changes. So much so that prior to GPS is, you know, being the biggest form of, you know, showing you directions on where to go and stuff. They studied the brains of taxi drivers in London, and taxi drivers in other cities, I guess. And they found or maybe just people in general might have been comparing to people in general. But London apparently has like super complex maps and a grid and all that kind of stuff. And these taxi drivers had really significant like neurons pathways, that we’re in the the area of the brain that specifically is for judgment and for logic and everything that they need for being in that profession, memory and all of that. Whereas someone else didn’t have those, that equipment and they found this so consistently that it has changed the paradigm and given credence towards neuroplasticity and they’ve just seen it over and over and over again. And so that means that when you think well my husband just thinks this way. He’s never gonna change, or my wife is always going to be this way. They’ll never change. That’s not true. It’s not true. It doesn’t matter how old they are. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been married. Look at my testimonials. You’ll see women that have been married 25 years, 18 years, 27 years, tons of people that I have worked with that God has changed their marriage. Not to mention the husbands that talk about how their wife, I don’t know what you guys discussed, I didn’t ask, but my wife is a different woman, after 20 plus years of marriage, God does that. He can change marriages, he can change your spouse, don’t doubt him have faith that he can change. Okay, so we’ve got number one is habits. Number two, change your thoughts. Number three, evaluate, become aware of the progress you and your spouse your marriage has made. So often we forget to realize how far we’ve come. We forget to see God has taken us out of that desert we have, God has taken us out of that horrible situation, look where we are now. We forget to take stock. And what I encourage you to do is take time consistently to recognize and thank God and praise God. To make sure you are aware of what changes have already happened. I have to do this with my clients all the time. They’re telling me the latest Whoa, but I’m like, you know, last month, he said this to you. And now he just got a job. Or another one like, you know, you know, he used to say your body was gross. And suddenly he’s a door in your body in every way possible, every chance he gets? Or do you remember, you used to say that you hated sex, and now you look forward to it, or sex wasn’t safe for you. And now you believe it’s actually pleasurable? You know, so we have to take stock, we have to remember that in the present, before we start evaluating the future is negative or, you know, the most recent negative thing, we have to remember what God has done already. And give him glory for that.
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And that brings me to my fourth encouragement to change in the new year is to focus. Focus on the good, what we focus on grows. It happens in every area of life, what we focus on, gross. So when you’re grateful to God for what he’s given you, and I’m talking emotional, talking spiritual, and I’m talking relational. When you focus on what He has given you, in your marriage, he gives you more. And I want to read a very important parable in my life that I have. I’ve really been grateful for, and it comes from. So Matthew 2514 It says for it’s just like a man going on a journey, who called his servants and entrusted them with his possessions. To one he gave five talents to another two talents and to another one talent, each according to his own ability, and he promptly went on his journey. The servant who had received the five talents went and put them to work and gain five more. Likewise, the one who had two talents gained two more. But the servant who had received the one talent went off, dug a hole in the ground and hid his masters money. After a long time, the master of those servants returned to settle accounts with them. The servant who had received the five talents came and presented five more master, he said, You entrusted me with the five talents see, I have given you five more. And His master replied, Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful with a few things. I will put you in charge of many things, in turn into the joy of your master. The servant who had received the two talents also came and said, Master, you entrusted me with two talents, see, I have gained you two more. And His master replied, Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful with a few things. I will put you in charge of many things Enter into the joy of your master. Finally, the servant who had received the one talent came and said, Master, I knew that you are a hard man, reaping where you have not sown, and gathering where you have not scattered seed. So when my fear I went and I hid your talent in the ground. See, you have now what belongs to you. And the master said, You wicked, lazy servant, replied the master. You knew that I reap where I have not sown and gather where I had not Saturday. gathered seed, then you should have deposited my money with the bankers. And on my return, I would have received it back with interest. Therefore take the talent, therefore take the talent from him and give it to the one who has 10 talents for everyone who has will be given more, and he will have an abundance, but the one who does not have even what he has will be taken away from him. And throw that worthless servant into the outer darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth. So the last verse there is pretty serious. And throw that worthless servant into the outer darkness where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth. What I have discovered in these verses is that God entrusted each of us with everything we have everything, not material, not just material wealth, if the fact that you’re able to listen to my voice right now means you are more wealthy than at least 75% of the world, at least, so you have been entrusted my dear wife and husband, you have been entrusted with great wealth. So what are you doing with that wealth? But even more so, you know, what I’m even talking about is emotional, spiritual.
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That kind of stuff in your marriage? You know, are you saying, Well, I don’t have the kind of marriage they have. So I don’t have enough to work hard on it, or I don’t have to do much. You know, I haven’t given been given the kind of husband that she had, I don’t have the kind of looks that she had. So I wasn’t able to attract that man that was able to have a lot of money. So I get to make my man feel miserable. Because XY and Z know that is not what God is calling us to be about. That was the lazy servant. That was the one that was thrown in outer darkness. Your job regardless of if you were given five talents, or two talents, or one talent, your job is not to compare. Your job is to say, You know what, my master, the God of the universe gave me what he gave me because he knew something that I don’t know. And I am going to invest it. I am going to work hard I am going to bring back I’m going to say when when I’m coming home, he is going to say well done good and faithful servant, you have been faithful with a few things. I will put you in charge of many things, Enter into the joy of your master. Enter into the joy of your master. That’s what God’s gonna say to you. If you are faithful with the few things, my dear wife, if you are faithful with a few things, that’s your time, your resources, your money, your passions, your affections, your servant heartedness. If you are faithful with those few things, with your marriage, with your relationships, with your kids, with your family, with your ministry, with your emotions with your character, those few things, if you are faithful, He will put you in charge of many things in turn to the joy of your master. And you don’t know if he’s going to put you in charge of many things on Earth, or in eternity, because he turned me God’s got work for us to do, we’re not just going to float around on clouds all day and eat bonbons. He’s going to have work for us to do and it’s going to be affected by what we’ve done here on earth. He will put us in charge of many things, there is more to be done. So I want to encourage you wherever you are in your marriage right now. You can be a good steward, you can be faithful with those few things. So again, for everyone who has will be given more for everyone who has will be given more, and he will have an abundance but the one who does not have and here’s where I would input the one who thinks he does not have even what he has will be taken from him because that guy had a talent. But he thought he didn’t have anything. But God said even what he has will be taken away. So that is why I say focus. Focus on what you do have focus on how to invest in that. Appreciate what you Have invest in that be faithful with that, so that it can grow so that God can do more in your life in eternity. All right, serious stuff, serious, serious, serious stuff of talking about eternity, it’s not. It’s not something to laugh over. But I know that you are going to be faithful, I know that you are going to make big, big changes this year. 2019. So, the four things I encourage you, change your thoughts, interrupt those patterns, change your habits 40% of your life or habits. When you start feeling fear, you respond with affirmations of faith out loud, just one example. And then evaluate, become aware of your progress. Don’t forget to realize and thank God for what you’ve already accomplished, where God has already taken you in your marriage. And the last one is focus. Focus on what God wants you to be faithful with. And you are faithful in the small and God is going to reward you. Alright, my dear, I love you. I’m so grateful you’re tuned in I am going to do a little song for you that I hope will encourage you after the music
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Alright, let me pray for you real quick. Father, God, the woman on the other end of this microphone. Lord, I just ask in Jesus name whatever stirred on her God, that you would just fan that flame. Lord give her fire for you again, God remind her of her first love, Father that 2019 is a year is that that life change happens that she grows closer to you, God, and then becomes more committed to your word, and your your ministry that you’ve called her to. And yeah, whatever you need to do, that she needs to whatever action she needs to take that you would lead her in that she is your daughter. It says that your sheep know your voice, and that I pray that she would know your voice. And God she would be guided, she would be kept from the wolves, Lord, and you would teach her in Jesus name. Amen. All right. And with that, I once again I want to just offer I would love to speak with you. If I have time on my calendar. Quickly book it, but one on one. And I hope that we can really get to the bottom of what’s going on. If you give me the opportunity to speak with you and I’m sure God is going to do some cool things. All right. That’s www.dy M dot h s.me. God bless you. I am excited. I will be talking to you next Tuesday, as well. And yeah, Happy New Year. Bye.
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How wanna sit at your feeds, drink from the cup in your hands. Lay back against you can breathe. Feel your heart be. This love is so de. It’s more than I can stand out in your piece. It’s so overwhelming. I wanna sit at your feet to drink from the cup in your hands. Lay back against you and breathe. Feel your harpy Miss Love so Dee. It’s more than I can stand. Amelle chin your piece. It’s overwhelming. I wanna sit at your feet. drink from the cup in your hands. Lay back against you and breathe. Feel your heart be. This love is so D it’s more than I can stand out in your piece. It’s so overwhelming. mean Jesus, I wanna sit at your feet. drink from the cup in your hands, lay back against you and breathe. Feel your Harpy. This love is so deep. It’s more than I can stand. I’m melting your piece. It’s so over me