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It’s that time of year. Happiness and fun and joy is expected.
Is it reality for you?
Do you have joy in your heart?
CAN you have it?
I want to talk about this because the holidays can be extremely difficult. And I want to invite you to think about the things you can do even today that will change your perspectives.
How do you make your life aligned with your deepest values and highest vision? I speak specifically about tools that will help you get there.
If you’d like the Prioritize Your Life chart I talk about you can email me at belah at delightyourmarriage.com
If you’d like to listen to an extremely inspiring story of marriage and love, check out this podcast with Joni Eareckson Tada – When Disability Challenges Your Marriage
I’d love to have you on my 3-part Video Training that will be up for a limited time: The 3 Keys To Seductive Confidence
Happy Thanksgiving!
PS Don’t forget to sign up for the video training! The 3 Keys To Seductive Confidence
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Welcome to the delight your marriage podcast. You’re joining me belah rose as I dive deep into the beauty, power and truth about intimacy, learn not only the practicals, but the heart behind what making love is all about. delight your marriage. He they’re Welcome. Welcome. This is belah rose. And I want to thank you so much for joining me today. So I want to talk about happiness. I think there’s a ton of cliches around it. And I also think that there are a lot of negative notions in the Christian church around happiness. And I guess I want to give my take on happiness given that this is Thanksgiving, week, and happy Thanksgiving is what we often tell each other. Or another time we say Happy New Year. Happy Easter, there’s lots of times in our around the the year that we do say happy. Now before I get too deep in here today, I want to talk about three part video training that I’ve actually put together. And I would love for you to be part of it. It’s called the three keys to seductive confidence. Now, I’ve been talking about seduction for a while now. I’ve been asking for your opinions, your thoughts, your questions. And so I’ve put together a training for you. Now, it’s not going to be live for very long. So I would invite you to go to www dot delight your marriage.com/seductive-confidence seductive dash confidence, the dash is like a hyphen, if you know what that looks like. So anyway, I’d love for you to be there. Like I said, you sign it up, and then you get to see the video right away. And it’s a training. So I want you to really get the best value out of that. And it won’t be live for that long. So please go ahead over there. Alright, so I want to talk more about this notion of happiness. And the reason I think it’s so important right now at this time of the year is because of so often, it’s the time that we’re thinking about getting together with family, and we’re thinking about maybe traveling. And often there’s a lot of pain associated with this time of year, because we’re noticing that our families aren’t maybe close by, or emotionally, they’re not close to us. Or maybe they’re physically right next door. But in terms of the love and connection, we feel it’s so low. And maybe that’s also the way it is with your spouse. And you know, the weather is getting colder, of course, depending on where you live in the world. But here in New York City, the weather is getting colder, and you’re inside more, which means you’ve got less to do outside, it means you’re probably around your spouse more often. And if things are not well connected for the both of you, you probably aren’t having the best time around the seasons. And the other thing to keep in mind is seasonal affective disorder is actually a real real thing that may be affecting you or your spouse. So the fact that the sun is a bit farther away from the Earth, again, assuming you’re in a similar geographic location as I am. There’s many people around the world that listen. So thank you for listening. And I’m sorry, if I’m excluding you, because you live in a place that gets plenty of sun. But for those of us that are suffering over here with less sunlight, and daylight savings changed, so for me, it gets dark around like 430. Now I’m definitely one that prefers warmth and light. So anyway, the sign is farther away, so you get less vitamin D, which may affect certain things like depression and may also affect just whether or not you can get out and be active, which also really affects your mood and just how you interact in this world. I used to think words like mood were not important at all. I was like, I can change my mood. That’s a choice. I get to change my attitude if I want to. So I used to give that not a lot of credence. I think as I’ve grown older, I think I’ve gotten to the stance that yes, we do have a lot of
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ability to change our mood just by face statements, we’ve talked about that quite a lot, but also by choice, just deciding to change, or Viktor Frankl is actually a survivor of the death camps in Nazi Germany. And he was this psychologist that he went into the death camps with this philosophy essentially that you don’t have to be defined by your circumstances. Now, if you can imagine what this man has gone through, and what he seen, and the pain and the suffering, that he went through the way he describes it in his book Man’s Search for Meaning, he says that he kind of took himself out of his situation, and almost put himself at the other side of the room, as though he were peering at himself and viewing himself as a third party. And that was a helpful tool to see, is he acting in a way that he would want to is he is here assessing who he is, more objectively, and I guess that’s something that I would encourage you to be thinking about right now, in your life, with your attitude with your perspectives? Is this the person you want to be? If you are imagining a third party viewing you, and you’re that person, and you’re living in your values, with your values? Are you looking at you and saying, yeah, yeah, that’s who I want to be. That is who I am. Another thing he would talk about is, imagine that you’re 20 years from now, I’m estimating the timeline, but maybe something like 20 years from now, and looking back at this moment in your life, is that the person you want to be? Are these the choices you want to make? So I want to challenge you, as you think about this season of your life in this very practical holiday season. Are you acting in a way that you would want to be acting? Are you thinking in the way that you would want to be thinking? Are these aligned with your values? 20 years from now? Are you making the choices? Are you making the thought patterns that are going to make you proud of yourself that you’re grateful you think this way. And then one thing that’s very helpful in marriage and family situations, is my final comment about Viktor Frankl. And I’ll tell you how to spell his name. It’s VI, k, T, O R. and last name is Frank L. And again, his book is Man’s Search for Meaning it’s powerful, powerful book. But one thing he says is between stimulus and response, there is a space in that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. I’ll say it again, between stimulus and response, there is a space in that space is our power to choose our response. In that response lies our growth and our freedom. So often I talk to a spouse and they’ll say, Well, my wife did this. So I had to respond XYZ. Or maybe the wife will say, Well, my husband did this. So I had to do this, or my spouse made me do this. And it’s this absolutely false notion that your spouse makes you do anything. They don’t. You have complete freedom over yourself. Let that sink in for a minute. Is it true that you have freedom over yourself? Maybe your spouse is controlling. I work with a lot of couples like that. Maybe it feels like you’re suffocating. When she’s criticizing you yet again. Maybe it feels like you have no agency when he’s telling you what to do and what not to do yet again. But I want to invite you to consider the fact that you are not a victim to your life. None of us are victims to our lives. And if we look at it like our spouse is making us miserable,
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then we are not taking responsibility of our own lives. And if you are not going to take responsibility for your own life, 20 years from now, you’re going to say my wife was the one that didn’t allow me to do all the things that I felt like God wanted me to do. And you know what, that’s not gonna cut butter when you get to heaven, who you were was who you chose to be on Earth. So when you’re on Judgment Day, who’s going to be there? It’s going to be you and God. And the choices you made here mattered. So I want to give you a greater sense of freedom, about what is your abilities here on Earth. So we all kind of get to a place in life where we’ve got commitments, we’ve got things that have tied us to, to our time, and our emotion and our energy, because those are all limited resources that we have. So it’s not just time is our limit, but also emotion, and energy, and potentially other limits. Like maybe you have a mental disability, maybe you have a physical disability, maybe you have others in your life that you take care of. Maybe a limit is also being married, a limit may also be children. A limit may also be the choice of career that you have right now limit may also be finances. So there’s lots and lots of limits in this life. And I think a lot of times in terms of happiness, we think, Well, I’ve got all these limits, there’s no way I can be happy. I’m constantly doing X, Y, and Z. And that’s not fun. So there’s no way I can be happy. Now, I think that God actually cares about our state, emotionally. There’s scientific research that backs up, our physical health is very much tied to our emotions. And a lot of times when people don’t forgive others, it actually produces itself physically in your body as sickness. I’ve seen it several times where I’m thinking of someone in particular, that I noticed for years, she just was so angry at the world. So angry. And she was a neighbor. We didn’t know her very well. And in retrospect, I wish I had known her much, much better and but yeah, she she passed away with no family nearby, and no, no one that really knew her well. And in fact, they didn’t find her for a few days in her apartment because she was alone and didn’t. Yeah, didn’t have that kind of community. But essentially, that’s to say that, you know, that’s an anecdote, but it is very much scientifically proven is that our state of mind affects our physical health. But also biblically speaking, so there’s the verse that says a joyful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit dries up the bone. And when I was thinking about this topic this morning, there’s actually this great song that I can’t remember who sings it, but I’m going to sing it for you for a second. So get ready. It goes
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a joyful hearts. Oh, is good medicine. Ooh, but a broken spear read Ah ha. dries up the bone. joyful heart is good medicine a joyful heart. Oh, is good medicine. Ooh. But a broken spear read dries up the bone Joyful Heart is good Madison I joyful hearts. Oh, Is good Madison woohoo. But a broken spirit, uh huh, dries up the bow.
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Awesome. So I think God actually cares about our joyful heart, I think he is very aware of how it affects our body, and how it affects our walk with Him and our ability to do His will. And plenty of other verses talk about our joy, and how we need to be grateful. So a couple of them that I want to share is, this is the day that the Lord has made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it. So there’s very specific to be talking about our emotions, glad in it, let us rejoice, so rejoice is an action. So that’s actually telling you what to do, let us rejoice. Let us be thankful. Let us be grateful. You know, that’s the kind of thought there, let’s rejoice. Let’s praise God for this day. Another first I want to talk about is the verse that is quoted often, and I’m really grateful. But this is a, this is a part of the verse that I think we don’t hear, called out that often. So. So the verse that talks about Be anxious for nothing. And let me just read it to you. And again, it’s very, very well known, I guess, Philippians, four, six through seven, Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving. let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. So I’ll say it again without the, the emphasis so you can just get the full picture, Be anxious for nothing. but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. So I probably made it clear what I wanted to call out to you. But it’s the part that talks about. but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, essentially asked God. So I think a lot of times, we’ll have a situation that’s difficult, and will come before God and we’ll grovel and groan and grumble and and I don’t want to pass judgment on that. Because plenty of the Psalms sound exactly like that, in fact, plenty of the Bible, the prophets are grumbling and groaning to God, that’s just their, you know, they’re going through it. And I don’t want God does care about those things he does care about when you’re really going through it. This podcast, I want to focus on the other thing, because I think sometimes we give ourselves permission to grumble and groan, and it doesn’t end up moving us towards the joy that I think God also wants us to be about. So with thanksgiving, what does that even mean? So what it might look like, is in your prayers, to be thankful for what God has done, to be thankful for what God has done. So something really cool. I had a health issue that I was diagnosed with several months ago, I made a lot of changes in my diet. Huge restrictions now. So I talked to my doctor last week, last Thursday, got my blood drawn. I told her about the position, she was a new, she’s a new doctor, for me. Anyway, I told her about the condition. She’s like, Oh, are you taking medicine for it? Well, I was like, Well, I’m doing this other thing. And she’s like, No, you better start, you know, this. She says, there’s no, she said something like there’s no evidence that food and diet changes make a difference. She said, there’s no evidence for that. So, you know, you’ll need to get on the medicine, if in fact, these levels are low. And you know, I’m open to that, like I, I think Modern medicine is great. I think there’s also a lot we can do proactively to heal our body on our own as well. So anyway, she took all my blood blood levels and the next day called me and said, Well, you definitely have this illness because you have the antibodies, but for some reason, your your, your organs behaving itself and your levels are normal. So just keep doing what you’re doing. And we’ll check back in six months. So praise God, right? That’s what God did. God healed my body. You know, he
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made sure that right after my diagnosis three months ago, I had the grace to pop on a podcast that happened to have that information of ways that I can change my diet, I bought this woman’s books, and I, I learned her protocols, and I even purchased a program that she’s that she did. And all that was much cheaper than what the medication would have been. And also, uh, you know, God gave me the grace to make these dramatic changes in my lifestyle. And so it’s just amazing. And we prayed, and God did that. So God healed me. And so I think sometimes in our lives, things change. From like, really tough stuff, and we forget to consistently thank God for it. You know, if you haven’t listened or watched the pursuit of happiness, recently, the movie by Will Smith, and his son is actually in the movie too. But it’s all about this guy, who started out essentially homeless, and worked really, really hard in an unpaid internship, and I won’t spoil the ending, but it is a powerful, powerful movie. And the whole time he took care of his child. But one thing I wanted to say is that in watching that movie, of course, I’m tearing up several times throughout the movie, and I’ve seen it before, but it’s just such a powerful movie. And it’s a beautiful, feel good ending. So if that’s the kind of stuff you’re, you know, into, that’s, I like the inspirational movies, I’m not into the, the, the depressing without a without, without a good kind of ending that leaves you excited and inspired to live life well. But anyway, so after watching that, I was so stirred by this man’s journey. And the reason being is there are elements of his journey that really remind me of my own, I remember running to appointments or making myself look good in interviews, where I inside felt completely. Not not, what’s the word not qualified, or being persistent when, when most people would give up, or being evicted, or having to plead before a judge for significant challenges and financial hardships and bounced checks and, you know, those kinds of memories kind of come back that, that God was so kind to bring us out of, and I, I just want to invite you and encourage you to think about what is God brought you through and from and how can you be thankful? How can you be grateful? Like, yes, right now, maybe you’re going through a challenge. But what can you be grateful for? I love Anthony Robbins says, if you wanted to be grateful, what can you be grateful for? Another thing he said, I heard him he was like, I guess he was working with someone. And they were really struggling. And he just decided he was going to interrupt their pattern, because that’s a big thing from him for him is like, sometimes we get in this pattern of thought and his job is to interrupt their pattern and get them in a new in a new mode and not associate those things anymore. And so one thing is this person was going on and on and on about a really horrible thing that happened to them. But he decided the thing that’s going to be best for this person is to interrupt their pattern. And so he told them they have to repeat, you know, 10 times over. I’m so grateful I’m not a cockroach in Romania. I’m so grateful. I’m not a cockroach in Romania. I’m so grateful. I’m not a cockroach in Romania. And I including encourage you that if you’re having trouble with gratefulness or happiness or gratitude or thankfulness, say that out loud. Thank God you’re not a cockroach in Romania. Not that Romania is a bad place just that, you know, cockroach anywhere who wouldn’t be great.
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So anyway, I want to encourage you and invite you to be thinking about Thanksgiving so when you can come before God, He cares about you. He cares about what you’re going through. But he’s also a good, good father, and he does give you good gifts. He’s given you a lot of good gifts, he gives you the grace to choose your actions every day, he gives you the grace to choose what you’re going to focus on what you’re going to think about what you’re going to look at, and hear and listen to. Over and over and over again. So whatever struggle you’re having, again, if it’s directly with your spouse, you have the option to listen to my podcast and learn and grow, and maybe, you know, jump on that that video training series, where I teach you how to have connection with your spouse in a way that you probably wouldn’t otherwise without that support and encouragement and, and growth in that area. You have these freedoms, you have these choices. Thank God for those. You know, so often we assume that it was us that allowed us to get to certain places in our lives. And the truth is, the matter is that you wouldn’t have breath in your lungs. If it wasn’t God, who breathed him in there. He’s the one that created it all. And every good thing, every good gifts, gift comes from above comes from God. So I want to invite you to thank him, give him all the glory, for who you are, for what you’ve accomplished, for where you are in life. For the good choices you’ve made, you know, the fact that I was able to make these dramatic changes and, and be motivated to do that, because I care about my children and my family. And I don’t want to leave this earth too soon. I think God wants me here. And I think loving the Lord my God with all my strength includes my physical body. And, and that is loving God with my strength, because he gave me this body and taking care of it is a very important part of me loving God. But he gave me the grace to make those big changes. Truly, he’s the one that gave me the grace to do that. And so I can be grateful to him for doing that rather than keeping the glory for myself. This is probably a side note, but sometimes when people compliment others, their response is they either redirect it, or they they don’t accept it. So the response is not Oh, thank you. The response is, well, it’s not that great, or you know, it’s a negative response. I want to invite you to always accept compliments, and feel the good feelings of what that compliment means. But give the glory to God. You accept it, you appreciate it. You’re thankful. And you give the glory to God, because that’s, that’s the one who deserves the glory. He’s the one that made it possible for anything to happen at any point. So if somebody says, Wow, you look gorgeous. You can be like, Oh, thank you, and in your head or even out loud, you could say, you know, Well, God did a good job didn’t me. God, someone that made your body he made you beautiful, or handsome. God did that. And so deflecting it is not only hurting the feelings of the person that’s trying to give you the compliment, but it’s also not giving God his fair share and connecting you and God together. Right? Because that’s another opportunity to be connected to your Creator by giving him praise for his creation, for what he has done. So Happiness may be just plain old gratitude. Here’s what I think for me. When I feel happy about my life. It’s when I answer the question. I am successful when? To me that that helps me to see what what makes me happy. What is happiness. And so, here here’s the work that I’ve done on this. In my in my own journey, is I put together a chart actually that you can do yourself. I’ll describe it to you. This is something I work with my clients on but it helps to really
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help you to prioritize your life because if you don’t prioritize your life, then somebody else will weather Are you think they are doing it or not you, again, 20 years from now might be blaming them for that. But essentially, this chart is on the top row. I know I’m successful when and then you list down the things that that make you know, you’re successful. So the first one for me is, my heart is at peace. And I know I’m doing God’s will. Number two, my husband gives me a surprised and delighted smile when he sees me and he gives me a big bear hug and kiss just out of the blue. That just, that’s just like a little sampling of our lives together. And it helps me kind of visualize that, that helps me to know I’m being successful if I’m loving my husband well, and feeling his response because he feels loved Well, number three, that my kids run to me from their toys and hug me and tell me they love me. Again, that’s just one of those things that helped me to know in different seasons, it’s this is going to change. But obviously, another one that I know I’m successful as my sons pray aloud and ask about God, which is awesome. My, my youngest son, who’s just about five, came over to me the other day, and he said, Mom, can I can I whisper in your ear, and he’s got the cutest voice. He’s got this. Like, he kind of still has a baby voice. It’s adorable. He was Mom, can I whisper in your ear? And so he’s like, yeah, yeah. So he whispers in his ear, my ear. And he goes, God talked to me. I responded. And he said, I love you. And it was so adorable. It was so adorable. If you didn’t hear me say that. I said, he said, God talked to me, I responded. And he said, he loves me. And I thought that was so wonderful. So that that kind of thing makes my heart just explode with joy, that my son listens to God that he knows that God loves him that, you know, my gosh, who knows, may me maybe he did hear God say that, like I don’t know, it’s just incredible. Another one is, it makes me feel successful when my clients tell me that they’ve grown in their relationship with God. Another one is my clients marriages turn around. Another one is there’s a new review that comes in that talks about my work changing their lives. Another one is, when I feel fit, strong, full of energy and fast, when I play with my kids and play soccer, and another one is giving to the poor, I give a good percentage of the business income to different organizations that I find are very what’s the word responsible with with not only their work, but I think with the way they spend their money, I’ve actually toured their facilities before and, and have people in the field that vouch for the effectiveness of the ministry. So anyway, another one that makes me feel successful is I somewhat tackle my husband out of pure love for him, because I just kind of feel that inside of me. And then finally, that I feel so so grateful for my life. So those are things that helped me to know I’m successful. And if those things are out of whack, when I’m not, when I’m not seeing that my kids are well taken care of when I’m seeing that my husband is unhappy, where I’m seeing that I don’t feel at peace with God, these are the things that helped me to see when my life is not aligned with with how I think I’m supposed to be living. Right. So the rest of the chart, I’ll just describe it along the top, it’s commitment. So these are the different commitments in your life, the things that take your time, or energy or you know, should be taking some of those resources. So one of my commitments, I tried to then put this at a top to bottom scale. So relationship with God’s spiritual renewal day, relationship with husband relationship with kids, rest day.
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What’s next? Dy M, sleep healthy, healthy eating. And then I have I just go through like the different commitments I have in my life. And then the next column over is description. So my description of all of those commitments. The next one is the hours per week. So how many hours of each of those commitments? And then the next one is what are my personal benefits from those commitments? So for example, my relationship with God, my personal benefits is love Jesus centered and focused on what’s most important draws me closer to his will, and be in nature, loving God through that my spiritual renewal day, which is a chunk of, of a day, every single week. My personal benefits is renewal and rest in Jesus, it’s just us one on one, it’s realigning dy M, with God’s heart, it’s being in nature. Okay, so then. So you go through all that the personal benefits for each and every commitment. And then the next column over is my fulfillment score. So zero to 10, how fulfilled I am, by that commitment. The next column over is my aligned with values score, so is this commitment aligned with my values. And then the next column over is the eternal value score. So again, when I get to eternity, if I look at this commitment, how important was it, like literally, how important was that commitment in light of eternity, be as be as ruthless as you can on this column. So you can really see where you are. So then the next column over is your total. And so for me, my relationship with God, those are 10 out of 10s, for fulfillment, aligned with values and eternal value score, those are all 10 out of 10. So the total is 30. Everything else is less than 30. Even my relationship with my with my husband, that’s 29 My relationship with my kids, and it’s actually 27. So I lower it, but then everything else, so 27, then the next thing is
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Yeah, so So I just so everything has a lesser value than something else. So it it helps me to really see what what’s most important. So then the next column over is increase, decrease commit uncommit. And then the final column is the next action. So what do I need to change in my life to make this either more priority, or lesser priority, or uncommit, completely. So hopefully, that’s a helpful chart for you. And hopefully, it wasn’t too confusing for me to say, But truthfully, you are not a victim of your life. You can organize, you can change your life, according to your values, according to what’s most important to you. You can cut things out. I have a wonderful podcast episode from Jonny Erickson Tada, if you’re not familiar, she’s a quadriplegic. But she has done incredible things throughout her life. She’s written books, she has a worldwide ministry to help people in disabilities. I’m going to post a podcast episode from her, that is with her, she and her husband actually. And if you think you have limits in your life, she has got some limits, she’s also going through her second battle of cancer. And I believe she’s right now in chronic pain. So she really knows what limits are. And I hope that you will be inspired by her heart and her commitment to Jesus and her love for him. And at the same time, that you can look at yourself and see, if I suddenly was a quadriplegic, I would have to cut out a lot of things in my life. So do that now. So that you can live according to the values you think God wants of you. You know, I have limitations in my life that you don’t know about, that are just significant limitations, I have to consistently say no, so that I can say yes to God’s best. So that happiness is I think, you know, I don’t want to like get mixed up on words. But I truly feel like you have so much more choice in who you are. And in the way you live. within your limits. One of your limits is your marriage, within your limits, you can be happier, you can be more grateful. One thing that is a practice I do most mornings is I write out 10 things I’m grateful for and I try to make it creative and something new that I didn’t say the next the day before. And another thing that I want to invite you to do in terms of action items here is the is to when you’re not sure what to talk about with your spouse. It’s always easy to gossip, right? I don’t think encourage you to gossip, I completely discouraged gossiping 100%. But what you can do is you can ask them what they’re grateful for. And suddenly that changes the mood, it changes the focus. And it causes you to be more attuned to the good things that God has given you. So we do that a lot will will say, what are the what are the top three things that you’re grateful for, that you don’t usually think about? And often I’ll do this when I’m talking to someone, and the conversation went sour, and I’m trying to like, bring it back to the right the right way. It’s like, let’s both think about something positive. Let’s think about what God has done for us. So I want to invite you to do that. Before we go, let me pray for you and pray for this holiday season. Father, God, thank You for this person who’s listening, thank you that they are seeking you. And they’re seeking encouragement, as they move forward in this holiday season. I pray in Jesus name that you would give them the grace to come to you with their anxieties, their fears, their worries, and Lord through prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, that they would present their requests to you God, that this, this would draw them to you, Lord, that gratitude draws us to You. Lord, I asked, that’s what would be reality for them. In Jesus name, Amen.
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So, yeah, so I’ve given you some homework, I’d love for you to do that chart that I discussed about your priority. So you can go back, rewind and pause and kind of make that according to what I described. Or you can reach out to me belah at delight your marriage.com and I can send you the chart. So I’m happy to do that. B E L A H at to let your marriage.com The next thing I want to do is invite you to this free video series about seductive confidence. So if you don’t have consistent initiating in your marriage, if you’re a woman, and that’s not consistent for you, then my guests, and when I’ve talked to many, many women is I mean there’s so many things but but a lot of it boils down to are not confident, whether it’s about your body, whether it’s about what to do, whether it’s about looking silly, all of these things. So I want to invite you to that training, you can go to www dot delight your marriage.com/seductive-confidence And then finally, I would love for you to listen to Johnny Erickson Tadas podcast episode that I am linking here. Awesome. Well, God bless you. Thank you again for listening and have a happy, thankful giving, giving a full day. Happy Thanksgiving. I’ll leave it at that. All right, love you. Bye