Menopause Hit Her but He Needed to Lead (Episode 431)

Join Bella Rose as she interviews Mark on navigating menopause and reclaiming masculinity for a healthier, God-centered marriage.


Introduction: Menopause and Marriage

Welcome to the Delight Your Marriage podcast. In today’s episode, Mark shares his transformative journey of leading his marriage through the challenges of menopause. Hear about the mindset shift he underwent to ensure his wife felt
safe, known, and wholeheartedly cherished.


Key Themes & Takeaways

  • Apologies and Reconciliation: Discover how Mark employed “Shore Apologies” to heal past hurts and miscommunications.
  • From Transactional to Transformational: Mark learned that emotional connection and sincere love matter more than “checklist” intimacy.
  • Leading with Faith: A Christ-centered approach helped Mark reorder his priorities—placing his marriage above work demands and travel.
  • Practical Tools: Scheduling, consistent habits, and open communication gave Mark and his wife new hope during the menopausal transition.


Highlights from the Conversation

Addressing the “Prostitute” Mindset (Approx. 0:00 – 0:29)

Mark recalls a convicting statement: husbands who neglect emotional and spiritual connection yet expect intimacy on-demand treat their wives like “prostitutes.” This revelation motivated him to change his approach to love and leadership.

Why Mark Reached Out for Help (Approx. 3:41 – 7:01)

After years of marriage and ministry, Mark felt stuck. Menopause significantly altered his wife’s libido and emotional needs. Seeking advice through a Delight Your Marriage “Clarity Call” offered him strategic, biblical guidance.

Menopause Meets Leadership (Approx. 7:02 – 11:43)

Mark discovered that his focus had been on what he wanted from his wife, rather than prioritizing her well-being and sense of security. Apologies became a bridge to renewed trust.

Apologies, Faith, and Growth (Approx. 11:44 – 16:35)

Feeling conviction about how he’d been absent—both emotionally and sometimes physically—Mark took ownership of his shortcomings. A consistent habit of apologizing and showing genuine remorse allowed his wife to feel heard, loved, and safe.

Rebuilding Intimacy (Approx. 16:36 – 20:04)

One surprising step was taking his “foot off the gas pedal” regarding sexual expectations. By placing her emotional comfort above immediate gratification, Mark rebuilt authentic closeness and mutual desire.

Realigning Priorities (Approx. 20:05 – 28:21)

As a man in ministry, Mark wrestled with balancing work and family. He realized that truly honoring his wife included planning his schedule and travel commitments around her needs, demonstrating genuine servant-leadership.

Looking Ahead (Approx. 28:22 – End)

Mark envisions revisiting these lessons continually, potentially encouraging his wife to join him. He emphasizes men’s responsibility to shape the marital culture by pursuing humility, consistency, and love.


Practical Next Steps

If you’re facing similar challenges—be it menopause, communication breakdown, or general marital stress—consider scheduling a Clarity Call with Delight Your Marriage. Seek out resources, devotions, and supportive communities that help you stand firm in your God-given role as a loving, leading husband.


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