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500 Episodes! Your Influence & Joining DYM’s in Our Next Decade

When I hit “record” on the very first Delight Your Marriage podcast 10 years ago, my mic stand was a Quaker Oats container. 

I had a dream, a story, and a hope that I thought could help others. 

I just had a few loaves and fishes to offer—with a world in need.

Now—500 episodes later—we’ve seen Him do it: hundreds marriages restored in our programs directly, many thousands of families transformed through our podcast, lives healed all over the world. 

And yet, this milestone isn’t just about what God has done at Delight Your Marriage—it’s about what He wants to do next, through all of us.

Biblical Lessons to Take With You

Here are three lessons from this episode I believe will bless you right now:

1) Do not be overcome by evil
The world’s problems can feel overwhelming, but your greatest impact is in your sphere of influence—your heart, your habits, your marriage. That’s where revival begins. And it does spread!

2) Do courage enough and it becomes confidence.
At first, obedience to God feels risky and scary. But when you keep stepping forward with courage, it grows into confidence. And then it’s simply confidence in who you are and how God made you to be and impact others. 

3) Live the Love Chapter at home–first.
1 Corinthians 13 isn’t just for weddings—it’s your daily assignment. Love is patient, kind, forgiving. Revival doesn’t start on stages—it starts in your living room.

Hear How Delight Your Marriage Began

In this episode, hear how Delight Your Marriage began and where we’re heading in the next 10 years!

We’re going to in-person trainings (16 starting this fall!), best selling books, self-directed courses, certified coaches, live events, weekend retreats, and global impact—transforming marriages, churches, and even whole communities.

We’re just getting started—and you’re part of it.

With gratitude,
Belah

PS – Even if you don’t listen right away, here’s how you can step into what’s next:

For you: 

• Book a Clarity Call to begin your own coaching transformation: delightyourmarriage.com/cc

For others:

• Bring In-Person Training to your church or small group (launching January): hosting a group where marriages can heal in your community or church. Let us know if you would like to become a part: office@delightyourmarriage.com
  

• Help us find the Director of Operations role – take a look or send it to a friend. 
• Partner with us financially to sponsor pastors and churches in need (tax-deductible): office@delightyourmarriage.com 

PPS – Want a little more insight into the intimacy side of things? We had the privilege of joining the Date Your Spouse’s 2025 Virtual Sex Seminar where we answered all things intimacy. Check out this link for access this this year’s panel (and check out THIS link for access to all panels from 2020 – 2025!) We hope it is a blessing to you!

Transcript:

Belah Rose  00:02

Belah, welcome to the delight your marriage podcast. You’re joining me, Belah rose, as I dive deep into the beauty, power and truths about intimacy, learn not only the practicals, but the heart behind what making love is all about. Delight your marriage. Hi there. Welcome this is Belah. I’m thrilled you’re here. I’m a marriage coach and author and trainer. I have an incredible opportunity to chat with you on this 500th episode of the delight your marriage podcast. It’s incredible. This really is an amazing moment. If you have been with us for a while, and some people have listened to us for the 10 plus years that we’ve been doing the delight your marriage podcast, and if that’s you, here we are. Thank you. Thank you for listening. This is a big day, and I want to not only share a little bit about our history, but also where we’re going. We’ve had a 10 year vision document for the last, I think, three years, that we present to all of our team and volunteers, because we want folks to catch hold of where we’re heading and believing that God is taking us. It’s exciting, and I want to share that with you, our public audience. We’re so thrilled of where God has taken us today, and what I hope and pray that this episode will do a few things. Number one, it’ll encourage you. It’ll encourage you that God is still on the throne, and he’s doing good in this world. He hasn’t left. He’s not gone away because hard, sad, terrible things are happening. He is active. He’s active here at delight your marriage. He is doing big transformations in people’s hearts, today, tomorrow, yesterday, the day before, he is doing it. And I’m excited to encourage you that you’re on the team, that God is doing miracles through and in right now. Second thing I want you to walk away with is an encouraged vision for your own life. Because if God can do something through such small Loaves and Fishes, you’re going to hear about it at delight your marriage, he can do it in you with your small Loaves and Fishes, that’s exactly. And all we have is to say, God, I’ve got something small, but can you do something big? I’ve just got these little loaves and fishes that you gave me. Anyway, by the way, these are your loaves and fishes that you gave me. Can you do something with it? And the third thing I want you to walk away is you are part of where to let your marriage is headed. You have been and now here you are having the opportunity to make huge waves in the story of marriages, which are actually the story of families, which is actually the stories of churches and faith communities and Christianity as a whole over the next decade. So let’s get into it.

Belah Rose  03:40

You may know that I live in New York City, and when things feel kind of bleak, and sometimes believers talk about the sad things that are happening, and I talk about that with people I care about and they care about me, and we love each other, and we pray about it, and what often is the thing that can shake both of us out of that very sad moment, is to say. But the Bible says, Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. So, dear listener, we can’t control most things. We can’t Stephen Covey has an awesome concept of your sphere of influence versus your sphere of concern. So as a believer in Jesus, you want the whole world safe, right? You want everybody to live a life of kindness and generosity and graciousness and goodness to others, and ultimately live and walk around and smell and breathe and sound like Jesus. And yet we are a broken. People, and we live in a broken world, and there are sad things that happen all the time, and yet, here’s what we know, you can have a sphere of concern that’s big, but here’s the problem, if your focus stays on the sphere of concern rather than the sphere of influence, you’ll become depressed, despondent, often unable to function, maybe for not just a couple of days weeks, but even years and decades, where you just walk around frustrated, sad, discouraged, despairing, And you not only are not making a positive impact on those who see you as a role model, but you’re actually making a negative impact on them, because the truth of the matter is you matter. That’s the truth. You matter. People are justifying their thoughts and behavior by looking at you. They’re either justifying it in a good way of, oh well, if he can do it, I can do it. Or if she can do that, oh my gosh, I can do this. Or they’re justifying their lethargy, their laziness, their despairing. Well, if he’s going to be mad and grumpy, but go to church every Sunday. I guess that’s what I can do, too as a Christian. Or if she can have a mean spirited, busy body personality, I guess that’s not a big deal for me, either. So whether it’s a good role modeling or a bad role modeling, you are doing it by who you show up to be every day, over and over again. Now, of course, we’re going to get it wrong, but if we don’t aim to do this like Jesus, if we actually stop thinking he’s our standard, he’s our ideal, he’s the one we’re striving for, then we’re not even going to get close. So we actually do have to aim to do this Jesus way, and act and think like him, even though we’re not going to get it perfectly. So the point is, your sphere of concern may be huge because you care about the world that God cares about. And yet, if you don’t focus and work hard on your sphere of influence, you can’t impact what you actually should be impacting. So your focus needs to be on your sphere of influence so that you can grow that sphere to actually help more people in your sphere of concern, very practically, what that looks like is becoming the person on the inside that you need to be to love your neighbor as yourself. So if you love God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, with all your strength, that looks like focusing on your character, it looks like being a person of love. Love is patient, love is kind. Love turns the other cheek. Love is good to others. Love is careful with its words, right? It does not have a long list. It doesn’t keep a list of wrongs. Remember that that love chapter first, Corinthians 13. Are we thinking like Jesus? Because Jesus lived in a horrific time in history, horrific oppression. My gosh, were the people of God oppressed, and yet that wasn’t his focus. He gave for us a road map of living in every society that the world can ever throw at us, and being more than conquerors in our hearts, because we’re doing it God’s way. We don’t want to be overcome by evil. But when we focus on our own heart, focus on ourselves, our own character, who we are on the inside, then we actually can impact people. We actually have the courage, but not just the courage, the confidence. See, when you do something courageous enough times, it becomes confident. It becomes confidence. It becomes who you are and what you do. It’ll take courage for a while, but eventually you’re just going to be confident. And then once you get that level of confidence, you go for another measure of courage, but eventually it’s it, it the striving becomes just, this is who I am, and this is what I do. It becomes a level of confidence. And then you take courage in another realm, to the next level and next level. So I just want to, I want to encourage you. I want, I want to spur. Are you on? I want to say you can do this, but it does mean you have to start with your own heart, with your own habits, with your own character. You need to set your sights on who Jesus was, what he said, what he did, how he walked out life. And it has to come from the Bible. It can’t come from looking to the right or to the left of others who very well may not be looking at Jesus themselves. That’s what we have to do. I get it wrong too. I have to look at the Bible. I sometimes see somebody else and and think they’re on target and and then I slip on the wrong side because I was kind of justifying. I didn’t even realize I was using their example versus Jesus example. I mean, there’s so much that we have to tether ourselves again and again and again to Jesus. So focusing on what we can influence, what we can control, which is our intentions towards Jesus, in our daily habits of realigning with him again and again and again, we’re gonna get off track. Isn’t that the human heart we just swerve, Veer. That’s it. Veer off course. Many, many times over. Lord, just, let me just keep coming back. That’s what I want my reputation in heaven to be, that that girl, she just kept coming back. She, you know, she she really worked hard, and she got off course, but she didn’t she kept coming back. She kept coming back, she kept coming back. So as you focus on the things, you actually can control yourself, loving your spouse, well, loving God, with everything, who and how and what you influence grows. So you’re on your way, dear husband, dear wife, you are on your way, your opportunity is one step forward. One step forward in courage, one step forward in doing it God’s way, who Jesus was? Taking a look at those scriptures again, pulling out that dusty Bible. There’s a song that’s called dusty Bibles is a good one. I invite you to look it up. It’s a good one. Wonder, if I can think of how it goes,

Speaker 1  12:28

you only get this one life. I don’t want to sit and watch it pass me by. I’m so done being complacent. There ain’t no replacement for Life in the Light of Your Way, oh, I’m done hot enough of my way. We got dust on our Bibles, brand new iPhones. No wonder why we feel this way we walk with our eyes closed, blind, leading blind folks, and I’m done with those idols and dusty Bible.

Belah Rose  13:17

Yeah, let’s do it. Let’s do that. Let’s, let’s, let’s stop this nonsense of being focused on things that don’t matter, being focused on our sphere of concern versus the things that we actually can control, which is who we are with Jesus, who we are one on one with the Lord God Almighty. And so that’s my first encouragement for you, is to have a vision for yourself in light of eternity. There are people in this world and have been in this world that had that vision that, yes, they’re looking forward to eternity. Sign me up. Man, God, you’re you’re bringing me home. I’m ready. I am ready, but because I’m so dag on ready, I just want to do His will while I’m here. I just want to do what he wants me to do while I’m here. And that’s Paul’s perspective from Paul, who is in prison, talking this way. It’s really phenomenal. This starts in Philippians. One he says, I eagerly expect and hope that I will in no way be ashamed, but will have sufficient courage so that now, as always, Christ will be exalted in my body, whether by life or by death. For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain. If I’m to go on living in my body, this will mean fruitful labor for me. Yet, what shall I choose? I don’t know. I am torn between the two. I desire to depart and be with Christ. Which is better by far, but it is more necessary for you that I remain in the body. I. Convinced of this, I know that I will remain and I will continue with all of you for your progress and joy in the faith, so that through my being with you again, your boasting in Christ, Jesus will abound, on account of me, whatever happens, conduct yourselves in a matter, in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ. Then whether I come and see you or only hear about you, in my absence, I will know that you stand firm in the one spirit, striving together as one for the faith of the gospel, without being frightened in any way by those who oppose you. This is a sign to them that they will be destroyed, but that you will be saved in that by God, for it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ, not only to believe in Him, but also to suffer for him, since you are going through the same struggle you saw I had, and now here that I still have. So I want to encourage you that Paul is inviting you to be part of the suffering. Don’t stand on the sideline. Don’t act like it doesn’t matter. You are part of this. You are meant to have your eyes on eternity, but it propels you to do the good here. That’s what Paul said. I’m torn because I really want to be with Christ. It’s going to be far better up there, but you need me, so I’m not going to shirk that. You need me, and so that’s what I encourage for you. You have a calling, a giftedness, a vision for your life. You have it, whether it’s out in front public eye, public facing, speaking in front maybe it is, and maybe you haven’t been willing to go there, but maybe it’s using your more supporting giftedness, or whatever it is, Don’t stop. Don’t stop. Maybe, maybe it’s not an audience of 5000 maybe it’s an audience of 15, but you are not stepping up into that to influence the folks that you need to. So I invite you to dig deeper into that. So I’m excited to share with you what God has done over these last 500 episodes. It’s a truly incredible story, and it’s worth sharing for you to catch this vision of what God can do in such a short amount of time, and then I’m going to share what we believe God is doing in the next 10 years. So just a little bit of my story is that I grew up in many, many aspects of wonderful childhood, and I’m so grateful to my parents and for their incredible sacrifices for that, and then went to school, got married young. Really didn’t have a sense of my own self worth, and certainly didn’t have a sense of how to do marriage well? And ultimately, I was hurting him. He was hurting me. We didn’t know how to love each other well. We were both Christians, so it didn’t make sense, why would the very first, most important relationship of my life not work out well, even though I have the correct manual, I know Christianity is right? How? How am I not able to do this practically? And so that ended in divorce. It was incredible suffering. And if you have been or are in a terrible marriage, you know the the depth of suffering, because at the end of the day, a marriage can harm you or heal you the most that is the relationship that that is closest to you. Of course, that thing matters. So then I went away from Jesus because I was so devastated that he would allow this marriage to fall apart. I had prayed and fasted. I had done it scriptures way. I had read so many books. How could I not have done this right? And God was so kind and patient and gracious, and he drew me back. And actually, after time of totally doing it my own way, and certainly not Jesus way, I then decided it was it was exhausting and wrong and painful, painful to be doing it my own way. Hookup culture is not one that actually satisfies, regardless of how we might want to justify it as a rebellious person that was in pain. I Yeah, it was terrible, really terrible. So then God was so gracious and kind to give me my now husband, Daryl, and through my relationship with Him, God healed me. Healed me because Daryl exhibited the fruits of the Spirit he had growing to do and and certainly I did. But God. Healed me through his love, through His tenderness, his kindness, his gentleness, how he loved me, how he cherished me, how he made me feel safe, through his attention, through His tenderness, it was his heart, but it was poured out in certain skills, certain ways that he was, and it healed me. God healed me through this man and I was, at that point, gifted through my painful history with the understanding of the value of intimacy for men, and so it was very difficult. But what happened was, is I was loving him the way he received love, and he loved me the way I received love, and God healed us both and drew us closer to himself. We got married, and I mean, that’s my story, right? God, God can use everything to draw us back to himself. I knew that I was so in love with this man, and eternity was real. I already had the experience. I knew Jesus was real. I just was hurt. I was disappointed by him. I was doing it my own way, but I was so in love with this man, I could not I wanted him to know Jesus. So I never pushed him towards Jesus. I never forced him to go to church. I just, I just loved him well, and I started going to church, and he started going to church with me, and then he would like leave halfway through the sermon to go to a soccer game. And I never said a thing. I just Okay, love you, see you later. Little by little, he came around, he started going to church, and we got married and we, yeah, I mean, you can tell we didn’t do it Jesus way, but God was gracious and kind and good. So then I did some career things where I was originally, I wanted to be a missionary. I was just impact obsessed. I just wanted to change the world. The world was suffering. I remember, I remember being in a conversation with somebody, and I was just like, This world needs to be fixed. I think it’s about time. I think I think somebody needs to get out there and fix it. And that’s, that’s pretty much what needs to happen. And they laughed. I was like, yeah, we’ve been there’s too many people suffering. I think it’s time. Like, we have everything we need. Let’s fix this world. And I didn’t even know what field I was going to go into. I was thinking I’d be a lawyer or what have you, because I thought that would make me most effective. And anyway, God, God is so kind, because at the end of the day, my story made it clear that if I really want to impact people for good,

Belah Rose  22:57

I needed to help them with their most intimate relationship. Because when we’re on our deathbed, our intimate relationship is going to be the thing. It’s it’s the most impactful thing, and and then our relationship with our kids, if we have them, and from there, it, it that, you know, the circle gets bigger and bigger, but our sphere of influence is, first and foremost, our spouse, and then our children, and then it goes from there. So I that that was the the heart behind starting delight your marriage was I did several businesses because I just always wanted to to do something big. And after, after I, you know, manage some program in the nonprofit space. I realized that wasn’t really my spot. For profit was my spot, but I wasn’t able to land on the right one that I was super passionate about. You know, delight your marriage was my fifth endeavor, and and I still remember we were in this spot of my my first son was born. My husband was working nights, and so during the day, I would clean houses. I also worked part time for our church, and so we were, we were doing a lot, but as he was getting older, pretty soon, I got pregnant again, and I could no longer clean houses, so I used that time, first thing in the morning, to go to the nearby coffee shop. And you know, as I’m pregnant, I sometimes would buy chocolate chip cookie and bacon. And I would have my goal of writing 1000 words, or I can’t remember, I have my goal of how much I had to write before leaving. And I did that all summer into the fall of 2014 and then i. I published it on Thanksgiving Day. Then a good amount of cricket sounds afterwards. I decided we needed to have a marketing strategy for this book. So that’s when, somewhere in the very beginning of the year. Oh, yeah, yeah. So my second son was born end of December, and so right around the beginning of January, the idea of starting a podcast where I interview wives who have been married 30 plus years happily and how intimacy plays into that. What’s their story? What are the most difficult things? And then, then, how does intimacy? How has that been a blessing? Because our world has so many bad role models of marriage, but what about the great ones? And that’s what I wanted to, you know, give on a podcast, and so you can go back and see those first episodes are all just with with married ladies for the vast majority, and a lot of them are marriage professionals, and some of them were just women. I found that were bloggers that that had happy marriages and and we’re open to talking about the the intimacy side, just to just to help people integrate these things, that you can be a incredibly spiritually mature woman and be an incredibly sensual lover to your husband, those things are not against each other. Song of Solomon, that that woman was incredibly sensual and yet spiritual. It’s in the Bible. It’s in the Bible itself, that beautiful book full of so much very explicit imagery.

Belah Rose  26:57

And so that’s how it started. And so the book was, was done, and I remember my first mic stand was an oatmeal container, Quaker Oats. Just cut that thing up and put that as my mic stand early on. So for a long time, I was working full time at a different role, as a project manager at a fortune 500 company, and then a project manager at a agency where we worked with Fortune, I don’t know, 100 company, fortune, 50 companies, some of the biggest ones, like Apple and Facebook and things like that. So I I got some really up close and personal insights around what what it takes to to operate these giant, giant businesses. It was really neat. It was really cool experience. But as I was doing that, I was continuing to do the podcast, and it was exciting. And then slowly, we started with one on one clients, and that was really cool to see God do breakthrough in these women’s marriages and in their intimacy. And then eventually I was doing groups with ladies, and from there, there were a lot of men that were reaching out, how do I get my wife to read your book or listen to your podcast? And I had no idea what. I don’t know what to do with that. You’re gonna have to figure that out on your own. But then I started listening to these men having a call here and there, and realizing, wow, oh, I do know what’s happening here. Oh, I do understand what they’re struggling with, and how their misunderstanding of this or that is actually undermining her ability to love him well. And so I decided to do a pilot program for the men’s group, and four men signed up right away, paid signed up done for a three month program, pilot program, and every single one of those men had transformation in their marriages, every single one, and none of them had told their wives about it, because, you know, it’s such an untested concept. I mean, must have, would have sounded very funny to to their wives, and yet, God blessed it in a dramatic way. So that’s when it all started, and we started doing women’s coaching and men’s coaching, and now, by God’s grace, we have multiple group coachings going on, as well as a grad community for men and a grad community for women. So in total, we have somewhere around 150 active clients at delight your marriage and in the different programs, and we have at least two dozen volunteers and a team of full time or part time people that are a team of 10 staff. So we have an incredible. Able group of people that run delight your marriage. Now, it’s truly incredible what God has done in 10 years. So that’s active, but there have been hundreds, hundreds of clients that have come through and seen transformation in their marriage, in their whole lives. Because when you focus on your sphere of influence, on your heart, on your journey, on your healing, to love others well, to love your spouse, well, to love your kids, well to do this, Jesus way, your whole life changes. You can’t help it. Everything changes. So we have been thrilled to see what God has done. The ripple effects are amazing. We’re in over 180 countries all around the world. This podcast has grown. We’ve millions of downloads. It’s truly incredible. So each one of you, if you’ve ever listened to a podcast, if this is your first one, welcome, but this is what God has done. This is God’s work. I’ve just brought my little Loaves and Fishes. Each one of our team, they’re incredible people with incredibly diverse gifts, and they’ve brought their Loaves and Fishes. They say, God, I just want to do this your way. I want my little sliver of your will to be accomplished. And it all comes down to, Am I doing it at home? Am I doing it with my husband? I literally talked to my husband this morning. You know, he was smiling. He’s like, I’m so happy. I’m so happy with you. It’s like, Honey, I love when you’re happy. I wasn’t crying, but I just love when he’s happy because I I feel so inspired to do this work, because I’m like, okay, I can do this because I’m not a hypocrite, you know, and I’m not perfect, and he’s not perfect, and we have our silly days where we’re a little off base or not as unified as either of us want to Be, but because that’s that’s so outside of the norm. I feel very confident being able to help you step by step. But God is he’s the one that gets the glory for all of it, all of it. He gets the glory for. Another cool aspect of all of this is it’s all been an organic growth. We started going on social media about four months ago, and we’re not even on there in a major way. We have had a couple clients filter in through social media. So we’re not really there. We’re just there for the sake of some level of longevity. But we just don’t that’s not how people find us. They find it organically. Or they search something up, or a friend tells them, because God’s done something amazing in their marriage, or a pastor tells them, anyway. The point is, you may have been one that recommended delight your marriage to a friend, and it changed their marriage, their family, their legacy forever, their kids, their kids, kids, kids, kids, kids. That’s amazing. Thank you. Thank you for what you’re doing here. So I want to switch gears and tell you about where we’re heading in 2035, 10 years from now. So this fall, we are actually running a pilot program of our in person training. So this is being housed at churches or personal Bible studies or just people getting people together in their community to do this in person training. So our flagship course that we have basically a three month intensive for men and for women separately, is now in person. And so essentially what you would pay coming into a live coaching call with me, or eventually another coach at delight your marriage is actually what a church can invest so that many people in your congregation or in your community can go through this transformation journey themselves for $100 each, rather than the investment that you know, a full on coaching call with direct back and forth, tailored feedback would cost. So it’s really an incredible thing that we have been asked for for years. People want to get this in their churches. And so finally, we’re in it. Finally, we have 16 pilot programs going on throughout the country, and actually multiple countries. So we are excited about what God’s doing. We can’t wait to tweak things up and make sure everything is running well and hearing the results and getting the testimonials and all these things. And we’re officially launching this January, this January to the broader people. So if you want your church involved, or you want to find out more for yourself, I. Um, I would love for you to go to delight your marriage.com. And you can find all the information there, but you can also call us and and we will give you information from there. So the the number is 332-239-2379, and if you’re calling outside the US, it’s plus 1-332-239-2379, you can also text that number and we can get back to you, but lots of really great like a promo video and lots of great resources we can send your way and give you insight about that. So that’s that’s coming in January. So where are we headed? In 2035 oh, my, my, my, so this in person training is not just for a small group of communities. What this is is all about transforming lives throughout our country, the United States, but also throughout the world. And I was talking to a psychologist just the other day who’s going to be on our podcast soon. And I love what he said, Because he knows a couple people that have gone through the program. He’s referred some and and he is just praying and believing that this is revival. Everywhere that delight your marriage goes the in person training. It is revival. Because the truth of the matter is that is what this is about. When your own heart transforms before Jesus and it impacts your closest human relationships, that’s revival, because the ripple effects are everywhere. When people are attracted to Jesus because of how you love your spouse, that is revival. They are interested. We already have

Belah Rose  36:45

pre Christians, as some people have said, people who are not yet followers of Jesus. In our delight. Your marriage programs already in the well, in the coaching Yes, but also in the in person trainings. So if you have thought and prayed and wanted and wish to be part of a coaching program, but you’re just concerned about the investment. Hey, give us a call. Let’s get your pastor involved. Let’s get connected. Let’s not get just you healed. Let’s get a dozen people at your church or community healed. Let’s get marriages around the globe healed. Maybe you’re called to be a facilitator for this training. And essentially what it looks like is it’s a video training. So it’s 12 weeks, and you, you host them and some, some kind of space. You’ve got a video up there, but we supply everything else, the workbooks, we tell you some facilitator training tips. But really, the onus is not on you. The onus is not on the facilitator able to help all these couples. Instead, there’s a very specific accountability system for long term transformation, letting the church be the church. And we’ve really mapped up out so many aspects of this training, and we are thrilled that God’s already using it for good. So in 2035 we’re going to have self directed courses, best selling books, podcasts with hundreds of millions of downloads, with 10s of 1000s of reviews, a delight your marriage app that gives people resources and encouragement and accountability systems through the app. We have a lot of these things already in motion, but it’s going to be on a much larger scale. We’ll have our merch store, which we have, but we’ll have it far expanded, interviewed on lots of different big name platformed podcasts and TV specials, best selling audio books, millions of YouTube subscribers, programs inside of delight your marriage. We’re essentially going to be 10 times the size of the coaching programs that we currently have. We love coaching programs because it’s tailored advice, but we’ll have 500 person coaching programs with dy M certified coaches. We’re also going to have many 10 person coaching programs with, again, certified coaches. There’s also going to be coaching programs just with me, also our graduate program, hundreds and hundreds of ongoing maintenance groups, which is after their programs. The beauty of our dym programs that we have inside dym is that it’s anonymous you you don’t know the people that you come in with, and there’s just this level of privacy that you get to have due to the way it’s Set up. But we also have very specifically, carefully crafted systems to make sure people have the accountability and camaraderie. And that’s why people stick around for the grad groups, because these are close friends that know the systems that we teach and are there to encourage and pray for and love on each other after after the. Program is finished, so in 2035 we’ll have all sorts of themed groups, including specific to pastors, specific for pornography, healing or affair healing, or specific to relational dynamics and challenges. We’ll also have further partnerships with churches, small and large seminaries, Christian schools, Christian radio, denominational organizations, poverty relief, international non profit organizations, missionary organizations, church planning organizations, a lot of those are already in the works. I mentioned before. We’ll have certified coach certification in 2035 so we’ll actually be able to bring people through the training of how to be an incredibly effective coach and witness God transform. And so we’ll have that certification process in 2035 we’ll also have delight your marriage events, where we’ll have live in person events specifically for men and specifically for women. And so this is going to encourage and invite continued transformation, relationships, community and excitement for what God’s doing. We’re also going to have dy M conference events, so when a couple can come for the weekend and have wonderful training separately and then together and and have just a dramatically changed marriage in just a weekend and then ongoing support afterwards. So interviews, being on Jordan Peterson, being on Oprah, being on Joe Rogan, the view Kay love, Focus on the Family. Francis Chan, thinking out loud. Remnant radio, Proverbs, 31 ministries. Tim Ferriss, entrepreneur podcast, I mean, we want, we want to go for the big, the wide. Listen, marriage is a 60 billion weddings. I’m sorry, weddings are still a $60 billion industry in the United States. So people are not giving up on weddings happily ever after. Marriages are still what people want, and so delight your marriage is effective, and so you won’t be able to ignore effective transformation. So yes, these folks that are not necessarily Christian touting things when they get wind of how effective delight your marriage is. Because, guess what? We plagiarize the Bible. That’s right. Delight your marriage works because it is based on a book, a book that doesn’t change, a book that’s not built on shifting sands. It’s built on the Word of God. It is our authority. It is the reason this thing is effective. And so we’re excited, because to let your marriage is just going to explode in 2035 on publications like New York Times and Forbes and entrepreneur Vogue Time Magazine, Christianity Today, Christian Post, we are going big, because that’s what this world needs, is big transformation. And guess what? Amidst it all, we want our sphere of influence, our heart, our humility, our character, to be right. Because if we don’t have that, doesn’t matter how big we are, we’ll be this, this, this, this vacuous. It’s like a hollow, hollow. It’s all smoke and mirrors. It’s not real. We want real, a delight your marriage. We are not willing to do this on pretense that is core to our values. Core to our values is to be trustworthy. You. Giving is a major passion and motivation at delight your marriage. We give over 10% of our profit to organizations that help alleviate poverty internationally. Do on dym sponsors a child in honor of every team member, including volunteers. We do those things now, and we’re thrilled about it, and God’s just going to continue that. Scholarships. We give scholarships to full time missionaries, ministry leaders, others, nonprofit leaders and others with financial need. We we do that now as well, especially as funds are available. If you want to partner with delight your marriage, we invite you there’s a there’s a 501, c3, the partners with us. We invite you to give. That’s a fund that people can benefit from right now. And so we’d love to partner with you to fund scholarships for these pastors and for these churches. We’ve been able to sponsor small churches for this pilot program already. So if you have a heart for that and you want to see this vision take off, please. We’d love to have that connection. So our favorite quote that often comes in this is our goal, and heart for delight your marriage for years and years to come, is this quote my spouse and children now follow Jesus because of how he transformed our family through delight your marriage. Right? That is truly our heart. I’ll tell you our mission statement is to bring husbands and wives from both. To bring husbands and wives from brokenness to healing, connection and intimacy biblically, that is our heart. That is our heart. Let me tell you our core values. It’s real, love, eternity focused, safety first and truly invested. Real love is defined biblically. Our team’s genuine care. People are not numbers. They matter. They matter to God and they matter to us. Eternity focused, if it’s not going to have eternal impact, we’re just not interested or impact obsessed. Here. We want long term spiritual impact. We want to hear well done, good and faithful servant safety first. We create a trustworthy environment for clients. Transformation, intimacy. Topics are not easy to talk about, and the enemy wants to destroy anything, any good through this topic, we’ve seen it, it’s dangerous. It’s important that we’re wise, and it’s important that we are trustworthy. First, it’s vital. We have to get our character right and do this in integrity, and then truly invested commitment from both our team and our clients. It is required where your treasure is there, your heart will be also, financially, people have to be invested, and our team has to truly be invested. That means we rest intentionally, because we want this to be a long term, ongoing journey to help people grow. So we’re invested, and they are truly invested.

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So that’s where we are today, and I’m excited specifically about where we are headed and how you how you can be a part of this journey. You can facilitate programs at your own community, event, your church, what have you you know where we’re heading, specifically some things that we’re in need of right now is a Director of Operations, basically my right hand person. I’m really excited, because this is a long time coming, and we have, again, 10 amazing team members. And this operations, this director of operations, is really to tighten up our systems, to help things really get managed well and updated and organized and really put this vision into reality. And we have so much in place already, and it’s really that high capacity person that’s saying, I want to grow this thing astronomically and quickly, and I’m really good at tech, and I can run and manage and help people stay accountable and encouraged. And that’s our Director of Operations. If you know that you’re that person, reach out to us, because we want to hear from you also. This is just thrilling, because pretty soon, I’ll be speaking at churches. So in 2026 I’ll be traveling around and speaking. So if you’re a pastor, get in touch with us. We want to see about when, when and if and how I can get to your church and speak. So we’ve got some really important guidelines around that. I won’t be preaching on a Sunday service in a church setting, but on maybe a Wednesday night, a Friday night a service separately, or maybe you just want to meet with me in person, and you maybe we can get that organized. So email us at office, at delight your marriage.com, or the phone number I already recommended. Let’s do this together. Let’s change this world together. Let’s have revival together, because strong marriages mean strong churches, strong marriages mean strong churches, strong marriages mean strong pastors. We have got to help our kids grow up in safe, healthy environments. And it comes down to marriage. It comes down to how you treat your most important human assignment. Let’s do this together. Thank you for being a huge part of the delight your marriage journey already. Maybe you already have donated, maybe you already have been a client and you’ve referred to others. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Maybe you’ve done a review on Apple iTunes. If you haven’t, please do on Spotify, put a review out there. You know, if you haven’t pushed this to others, now’s the time, now’s the time, now’s the time. We are just getting started. 10 years. In 10 years, we’re going to have an incredible wave of transformations throughout the whole country and world. So join us. Be part of the solution. Go to delight your marriage.com. Get a get resources. Understand where we’re heading. Be part of the solution. We would love to connect. So if I can leave you with a. Couple of options of what’s next for you is praying about bringing an in person training to your church. Again, you can be a facilitator, but you don’t have to be an expert on this training at all. In fact, you’re going through the training alongside somebody else, so you actually get that transformation. So you’ve got to get the plant, the seed in your pastor, and get them connected to us. So we’ve got the number on the website once again, but you can jot it down. It’s 332-239-2379, we’re ready to talk to them. And then also maybe you just want the coaching training that we’ve already been doing forever, and not forever, but for a long time, and had incredible transformations. You want to work with me directly? Great. Let’s get on a clarity call with a clarity advisor who’s going to walk you through that journey. So delight your marriage.com/cc. Or you want to give you’re just like Belah, your team is on the right track. God’s doing stuff. Let me be part of the solution. I want to sponsor pastors. Awesome. Let’s do this. This is your tax deductible donation office at delight your marriage. We’ll send you all those materials. Let’s get it, because right now, pastors are looking for the funding to transform their own marriages. So please, let’s, let’s go for that. Anything else that you want to let us help you with we can be part of your marriage conference that I’m just excited what’s, what’s God’s what God is doing. And thank you for being part of these last 500 episodes and these last 10 years. And we are just thrilled about what God is doing for the future. I’m also thrilled about how God is stirring in you the vision he has for your life. Let’s work together on this. Let’s continue the good work of transformation that God’s doing. Let’s pray, Lord, I thank you that we have a sphere of influence. Let us not neglect that, because our sphere of concern consumes us with worry or anxiety or concern or sadness or frustration. God, instead, we can say, I will not be overcome by evil, but I will overcome evil with good. I will choose to do this your way. God, in this world, you will have trouble, but take heart. I have overcome the world. So, Lord, we just want to attach hitch our wagon to yours. We want to say, God, let me do it your way. Let me walk your way in the private, in the secret, behind closed doors and in the public, let us not shirk back from the opportunity to take courage, because our private lives are in sync with our public Lord help us to do this, and if we’re not there yet, God give these husbands and wives listening the courage to say, I need help. I need to get there. So my private life reflects what I want it to look like on the outside too. Help these men and women. Help them. Lord, I love you and bless you and praise you, God. Thank you for what you’ve done so far at delight your marriage. Thank you for what you’re doing in the future. Thank you for every person who’s been a part of this, every person hearing my voice. You are God, you’re worthy of praise. We bless you and worship you Jesus. Name Amen. Thank you. Listener, God, bless you. We are excited to hear from you. Office at delight your marriage.com. Let’s get In Touch. We’ll talk soon. You you

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