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Body obsession has been a toughy for me all my life.

Wanting to be thin.

Wanting to be beautiful.

Wanting to fit into x size jeans.

Wanting to see x on the scale.

 

(The number of New Year’s resolutions based on this makes me embarrassed.)

 

And once I am triggered about thinking I’m not thin, I would eat to assuage those hard feelings.

 

Or other hard feelings, I’d eat.

 

Was it sin?

 

Was it a sin, for ME?

 

Let’s put a pin in that thought.

 

I think a major way the enemy tempts us nowadays is through distraction.

Is distraction a sin?

 

Well, if God has a will for our lives and there are things that are getting in the way of that, that’s what I would call sin.

We can’t be ignorant of his scenes.

If your insecurity about your body robs you of sexual desire and confidence in the bedroom — you need to wage war against this.

 

God calls you to be a spouse.

 

If something about your body makes you insecure, it is robbing you of the connection you are meant to have with your spouse. Men, maybe it’s your member’s size or belly, ladies, maybe it’s your belly, body’s shape, or giggle (believe me, I get it!!)

 

That’s why I mean to encourage you to wage war against this distraction.

And honestly, if it’s not allowing you to do God’s will — I call it sin.

 

If the amount of thoughts that we give to something is greater than the thoughts we give to God (worshipping Him / His word / His tasks / His rest / delight with Him / loving His people well)

 

…then might we be serving an idol?

 

I definitely was.

 

And it’s on me to wage war against that idol of body perfection because it hinders every other good thing God wants for me; what He’s called me to be about.

 

So, I hope you’ll be encouraged that you can get freedom from this, as I believe it’s a miraculous freedom I’m walking in now and have for some time. Thanking God for it!

 

I hope it blesses you.

Love,

Belah

 

 

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