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Hey there. belah rose here. Thank you for joining. I want to just ask you to do a quick smile. Yeah, doesn’t that feel better? I hope you’re having a good day. Thank you for joining me. I am reading excerpts from my book. The delight your marriage podcast is on a little holiday. We’ll be back in August. And so I hope that you are being inspired every week by excerpt from my book. It’s called delight your husband, and you can go to delight your marriage.com to check it out, as well as all the many podcast episodes we have already recorded. Okay, well, I’m going to continue reading the section of the book that says great oral starts in the mind, I changed the title of the podcast to say great sex starts in the mind, just to make it a little bit easier for people to click on because they might not click on the other title. All right, but let’s start where I left off last time. switch things up. As I alluded every now and then I like to give my husband an intimate treat. Yes, we have our more routine lovemaking which is enjoyable for both of us. And we’ve kind of figured out what works for both of us to feel fulfilled. But to ensure we continue to have a vital and strong sexual intimacy, I insert some spicy experiences to keep things interesting every couple of days or weeks. My goal is to keep him intrigued and even guessing. I also enjoy the thrill of these new treats and it keeps things fresh and exhilarating for me as well. If I’m not taking risks in our intimacy, it’s easy to fall into a routine that starts to feel nice, but eventually feels stale. We need to be careful to keep our sex life fun and exciting for both our husbands and ourselves. As sex expert Dr. Ian Kerner says variety isn’t just the spice of life is the very lifeblood of great sex. So I brainstorm things which I can do for him that are unexpected or surprising. Consider how loved you feel, or would feel with the random surprises your husband does for you. Ie flowers, ghosting you in the kitchen, which I learned recently means if your husband comes behind you and like you’re washing the dishes and he puts his arms like, behind like through your arms and starts washing dishes anyway, one of those romantic things I’m leaving a love note for you, cleaning the house or giving you the surprise back massage. Your effort of creativity infuses your marriage with surprise and fresh seal that helps you both stay engaged, excited and passionate. I want to give you some examples that may help you to dream up other ways you can infuse play in your marriage. When sharing a shower after the suds are washed off, drop down and give him some love. Wake him up by licking and nibbling his morning erection. Were special panties just above your tight pants while climbing the stairs in front of him. When you’re out sitting together, drape your coat over your lap and give a little caress underneath. Whisper how you’d like to do much more when you get home. Put on some saucy music and wear a revealing dress and heels and give them a sexy striptease. Keep in your keeping your head your aim to surprise him every now and then. And that goal will alert you to ideal moments for excitement. When the moment seems right. Go for it. Do not forget to build the sexual tension beforehand. Building anticipation of an event sets it up to be memorable and enjoyable for both of you. Having already built up expectation, alleviates any nervousness and moves past the sometimes challenging task of getting things done in the moment. So I’m going to take a minute here to just I’m not sure exactly where it is on here. But again, just talking about building anticipation that is huge. That is a huge piece of seducing your husband and keeping things exciting. So you can just drop little notes. You can do text messages, you can whisper in his ear. You can have little things that you say have little keywords, you know, there’s so many things you can do

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and definitely definitely, definitely anticipate. So yeah, I gave you a couple more explicit examples. but you can find you can think of so many examples. Like, when you’re out at dinner together, you pass your phone across the table. And there’s already been a pre recorded video of you that he can enjoy. While he’s at the restaurant and covering, covering the key, you know, the screen so nobody else can see or something like that. I mean, there’s just, there’s just infinite ways for you to make it spicy for your marriage. And I encourage you to literally brainstorm literally get out a piece of paper and read and consider what you can do. Okay, that was an eye that was a thought there. But let me go ahead and read a little bit more for you. setting the mood for his pleasure. When you’re wanting to provide him with that sensual feast, it’s important to lay the groundwork, just as you enjoy candles, soft music and enticing smells. To get you feeling romantic. So does he, if he doesn’t enjoy it consciously, it may be worthwhile to get you in the headspace to fully engage in the moment. Of course, he probably doesn’t have the list of required preparation in order to be fully present in a sexual experience. But he may care more than you think. So I would encourage so I said, give your husband a wonderful Penny, put it on your calendar. start his day right with making him fresh coffee, and something he loves for breakfast, let him know you’re planning something extra special for dessert tonight. And you’d appreciate him being prompt. Make sure to help him in whatever way possible to set up for a good day. Wrap a sexy thong. In a note reading mind if I wear this tonight and place it in his work bag, you might want to write on the outside for your eyes only to avoid his opening it in public, then text him shortly before he’d be leaving work to make sure his mind is primed for the evening events. Your texts could read, thinking of what I’m going to do to you when you get home. Smiley face. Okay, next item, you should take care of his children, pets or other potential distractors. Whatever works for your life, just make sure you won’t have to worry about being interrupted. Now, think about what your husband wants when he comes home? Does he like the house to be cleaned a snack prepared, or something else that would make him smile as he comes in the door? See if you can get those items done. So he can come home relaxed and feeling positive. Decide whether you’re going to eat dinner beforehand or straight to the dessert. Afterwards, worry with dinner, try to plan ahead so that you can feel comfortable and you both can enjoy the evening. All right. So that’s the section I want to read for today. But you can see I mean, we want to just flood our husband with a sexual feast essential feasts. I mean, again, I mean, this is the way he feels loved his sex. You know, I hear so often. Women Act like sex is just as important for them. And I just disagree. If it were true, men would be wandering around in tight shirts and tight pants. But they’re not because we don’t care. We don’t want to see men in the tight stuff all the time, because we’re not thinking about sex all the time. So no, it’s not the same. Yes, you should be putting effort into your sex life with your husband because he cares about it more than you do. So yeah, it does sound one sided because it is because he cares about sex much more than you do. I hope that that encourages you to Yes, but effort and time and energy into having a wonderful sex life with your husband. God bless you. Thanks for listening. I’ll talk to you next Tuesday.