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147-Is Sex Sinful? (Even [this kind] of Sex?) - Delight Your Marriage

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Hey there belah rose, I am reading another excerpt from my book delight your husband. This one is called oral sex sinful. Now the book that I wrote, delight, your husband is actually walking you through step by step how to get from someone who maybe doesn’t understand the importance of sex in their marriage, and then get to a place of fully understanding not only how important it is not only her husband’s mind, his the way he thinks about sex, but also how she as the hunt as the wife can interact with her husband in a sensual way, and in a way that she can seduce him confidently, but then also have full confidence in working his body, the way that the way that he is designed to enjoy that physical touch. And so it kind of culminates in teaching you how to how to enjoy and provide pleasure in oral sex, or I like to call it Penny. So that is the full breadth of the book. So I’m just going to talk about in this section, why people think oral sex is dirty. And the question that remains is, Is it is it sinful? Is it what God isn’t permitted? So let’s jump into this part of the book. As Christians, we are to be in the world and not of it, we must rise above and often ignore the expectations of our society. However, Christianity is really not about rules. It is about a relationship with God. He is completely wholly and completely perfect. And our sin separates us from God. But Jesus sacrifice was to give us a relationship with God to restore it. As we walk with God, we come to learn what he cares about. In his wisdom, he made the world hang on particular laws. He set it up for friendship, relationship, and marriages to work according to certain guidelines. God gives us some parameters. But outside of those, he doesn’t limit our exploration and pursuits to understand and enjoy his universe. We have to be careful not to think of the Bible as a rulebook. It is a gracious gift, by which we can know the Father and understand his ways and his world. Many laws and truths are elucidated in His Word, but not all. Gravity, for instance, is not found in the Bible. But that is part of his design of the world. He has specific truths in His Word, but he also gives us freedom to discover the vast universe he designed outside of those. That is why we look at scientific exploration as well as experiential wisdom, anchored in biblical wisdom in this course. So we look at the science we also look at experience, and we look it all within the context of biblical wisdom. What does the Bible say? God in his infinite wisdom, does have purposes for sex and they are in their ways. He says it can be misused. God provides guidelines around sexual relationships. There are specific ways God instructs us to utilize this powerful tool of sex. I I’d like to paraphrase parts of the authors of intimate issues exploration of the Bible. They searched the scriptures and noted each place. Each place there were any kind of guidelines around sex. So again, in my book, I have all the references listed out but I’m just going to mention specifically, what is not allowed in, in in surrounding sex. Number one, fornication, sex outside of marriage. Number two adultery sex with anyone who is not your spouse, indeed, or in heart. Number three, homosexuality sex with persons of the same genitalia. Number four impurity, lose virginity due to living pagan lifestyle. Number five orgies or swinging. Number six, prostitution, praying or paying for sex. Number seven lustful passions and sexual fantasies. Unrestrained sexual passion for anyone other than the person’s marriage partner, sexual fantasies outside of your marital union. Number eight, sodomy aka unnatural sexual intercourse, ie sex was someone of the same genitalia temple prostitutes

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or animals. Number nine incest sex with family members or relatives. Number 10. pornography. And you know, some of these are clearly they relate to for example, pornography is, is, you know, that goes along with not lusting after someone in your heart, right, even though they didn’t have pornography back then. But it’s the using the scriptures to understand what it means in this day and age. So. So now that we have looked at exactly what God’s boundaries are for marriage, where God draws the line, we need to clarify what is okay. Well, basically everything else within your marriage. But within your marriage, physical intimacy can be enjoyed by you and your husband. In every area of life within God’s parameters. He gives us a lot of freedom. He wants us to enjoy the breadth and the width of His creation. Within the bounds of marriage, we can enjoy the fruits of his creation, ie your husband in every way. Let’s use an example. I have never seen ice cream mentioned in the Bible. But God created everything we need to produce ice cream, and I credit God for intending it for my enjoyment. It probably would have been mentioned Had there been freezers back then, I imagine Jesus and I would have shared this sweet passion. And I have never questioned whether God approved of my enjoying this pleasure of ice cream. Now if I overindulged that would cross God’s boundary in Proverbs 23, two do not be given to go gluttony. That is his side. Sorry, that is his parameter. But within that guidance, I could eat ice cream in a cone with chocolate sauce with a side of bacon, or any other way my heart desired. He knows what is best, and he gives me parameters accordingly. He knows if I ate ice cream all day, and live gluttonously. In regards to this pleasure, I would be miserable and would not fulfill His purposes for me on this earth. However, within that guideline, I can deeply enjoy this gift of ice cream. Use the guidelines above to consider what is sin, and what is not in your sexual activities. All right, well go ahead to delight your marriage.com. And you can check out the book there, you can check out the video course. And there is a lot of previous episodes that we’ve recorded. So I would encourage you to check those out, check out the topics, and there’s just a wealth of information there. All right. God bless you. I am looking forward to our next conversation. The next reading will be next Tuesday. God bless you bye

147-Is Sex Sinful? (Even [this kind] of Sex?)

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