The organization was founded by Belah Rose who saw the crisis of marriages everywhere and wanted to ring the bell of HOPE! She heard a speaker admonish the listeners: “Don’t decide what you want to do with your life based on what others think you should, the money, or even ‘the sure thing.’ Instead, answer the question: ‘What is the work that needs to be done?'” For Belah, Delight Your Marriage was the resounding answer to that question.

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Most of us didn’t have role models to show us how to achieve a playful, passionate, and purposeful marriage and so Delight Your Marriage exists to provide that training and inspiration. Listen in to our podcast and discover… Practical frameworks, perspectives, and solutions to your daily challenges, Intimacy insights and guidance, and Transformation stories that will inspire you and give you hope for God’s miracles today!

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When Your Intimacy Isn’t “Normal” — There is Help & Hope

Maybe intimacy in your marriage doesn’t look the way you thought it would.

Maybe there are physical limitations. Health challenges. Pain. Insecurity. Lack of desire. Aging. Shame.

Or just a deep sadness that things don’t feel the way they “should.”

And maybe, quietly, you’ve wondered:
Is something wrong with me?
Is something wrong with us?
Are we just broken?

This episode is for the husband or wife who feels discouraged, different, or alone in this area of marriage.

Let this be an encouragement that intimacy is more than what we often make it out to be.

It is about unity. Tenderness. Connection. Loving your spouse well in the ways you are able.

If you feel unseen or forgotten by God in this area, this is a reminder that God sees you.

You are not forgotten.
You are not beyond hope.
And you are not strange or weird for wanting help in this area.

This may be a real suffering in your marriage—but suffering is not proof that God has abandoned you.

He can use even this tender, painful place to grow humility, love, compassion, and deeper unity.

God bless you!

Love,
The Delight Your Marriage Team

PS – If you’re ready to take the next step in healing your marriage, schedule a free Clarity Call. Get some insight into the health of your marriage and what the right next step is for you.

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PPPS – Here is a quote from a recent Coaching program graduate:
“The biggest marital struggle that I was feeling was a lack of connection within physical intimacy. There was also a lack of trust and feeling safe to genuinely be ourselves in different areas. It was hard to communicate without the other person taking offense, switching the subject or shifting the focus, etc. and it just made it hard to grow in a lot of areas…[Because of DYM], I’ve been able to truly shift my priorities to just focus on myself in the terms of how can I love my wife the way that God intended me to…[Intimacy has] been happening so much more than in the past, but more importantly, it’s been meaningful, fulfilling, and it’s being enjoyed without fear of strings being attached or tension from expectations…”

Here is an AI-generated summary of today’s episode:

When Intimacy Feels Different Than “Normal”

Belah speaks directly to couples who feel broken, discouraged, or alone because intimacy in their marriage doesn’t look the way they expected. Whether because of physical limitations, health struggles, insecurity, aging, trauma, or lack of desire, she reminds listeners that they are not forgotten by God—and that suffering does not mean they are unloved.

Why Intimacy Is More Than Intercourse

Throughout the conversation, Belah reframes intimacy as far more than intercourse or performance. She explains that physical connection can include affection, touch, nakedness without shame, cuddling, pleasure, playfulness, emotional safety, and intentional closeness. The deeper goal of intimacy, she teaches, is unity, connection, and serving one another with love.

Practical Tools for Connection and Pleasure

Belah also offers practical encouragement for couples navigating sexual difficulties. She discusses medical support, lubricants, vibrators, marital aids, emotional communication, and creative ways spouses can still pursue pleasure and closeness together even when traditional intercourse may not be possible. Rather than enduring intimacy, she encourages couples to ask: “How do we make intimacy enjoyable and life-giving for both of us?”

The Pain of Shame, Insecurity, and Feeling “Broken”

A major theme throughout the episode is the emotional weight many people carry around their bodies. Belah vulnerably shares parts of her own history with insecurity and an eating disorder, helping listeners feel less alone in their shame and self-consciousness. She encourages spouses not to allow insecurity or disappointment to prevent them from loving and blessing each other well.

What Scripture Says About Suffering and Marriage

Belah repeatedly points listeners back to Scripture, reminding them that suffering is part of living in a broken world. Referencing Paul’s “thorn in the flesh,” infertility in the Bible, and John the Baptist’s suffering, she encourages couples not to interpret hardship as abandonment by God. Instead, she reminds listeners that these challenges are opportunities for humility, growth, dependence on Christ, and deeper love within marriage.

Final Encouragement: You Are Not Forgotten by God

Near the end of the conversation, Belah reminds listeners that even difficult intimacy challenges can become a place where God brings healing, tenderness, and transformation. She encourages couples to pursue unity, kindness, honesty, and joy together—trusting that God sees their pain, walks with them in it, and can still create beauty, pleasure, and connection within their marriage.